Is Your Busyness Killing Your Love Life?
Your busyness is killing your intimacy! Today, we're diving into the nitty-gritty of emotional and physical intimacy in marriage, and trust me, it’s a game-changer. We’ve all been there, feeling like our marriage has turned into a routine rather than a loving relationship. So, let’s chat about how to reignite that spark and build a deeper connection. Whether you've been hitched for decades or just tying the knot, understanding how to cultivate intimacy can transform your relationship into something truly magical. So, grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s explore how to make your marriage thrive!
Busyness can be a real relationship killer, can't it? Today, we're diving into the nitty-gritty of emotional and physical intimacy in marriage. We chatted about how many couples find themselves in a rut, where love feels more like a chore than a cherished bond. It’s like, hey, when was the last time you had a heart-to-heart with your spouse? We’re here to remind you that true connection isn’t just about the romantic dinners or the passionate moments; it’s about nurturing that deep friendship that keeps the flames alive. Whether you're in the honeymoon phase or riding the roller coaster of decades together, emotional intimacy is the glue that holds it all together. So, let’s dig into how we can cultivate that spark, focusing on trust, vulnerability, and those late-night chats that make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
We also tackled the physical side of things because let’s be real, physical intimacy is as much a part of the equation. Sure, it changes as we age, but it can still be just as fulfilling in your golden years as it was in your wild and carefree twenties. Our conversation reminded us that a robust emotional connection enhances physical intimacy, making it not just an act but a beautiful expression of love and unity. We shared some awesome tips on how to reconnect and prioritize each other amidst the busyness of life, featuring everything from daily check-ins to those spontaneous romantic gestures that keep the spark alive. Don't overlook the beauty of deep, meaningful kisses and long hugs; they can reignite that passion and connection you thought you lost.
So, whether you're newlyweds or seasoned partners, it’s essential to keep that friendship thriving. Remember, it's not just about surviving but thriving together. By investing in both emotional and physical intimacy, you can turn your marriage into a reflection of God’s love, creating a bond that withstands the test of time. Let’s embrace this journey together, and make our marriages the best they can be!
Takeaways:
- Busyness can seriously mess with your intimacy; prioritize connection over chaos in marriage.
- Emotional intimacy is like the glue holding your marriage together; don’t let it slip away.
- Physical intimacy is more than just the act; it's a vital expression of love and unity.
- Creating deep emotional connections enhances your physical intimacy, making it more fulfilling and meaningful.
- Daily check-ins and meaningful conversations are essential for nurturing emotional intimacy in your relationship.
- Never underestimate the power of affection and romance; small gestures go a long way in keeping the spark alive.
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Your busyness is killing your intimacy.
Speaker A:Today, Teresa, we're going to talk about the importance of emotional and physical intimacy in marriage.
Speaker A:Let us ask you something.
Speaker A:When was the last time you felt truly connected to your spouse, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually?
Speaker B:Many couples go through seasons where their marriage feels more like a routine than a relationship.
Speaker B:They love each other, but the spark, the deep friendship is missing.
Speaker B:What if we told you that emotional and physical intimacy are the keys to reigniting that connection?
Speaker A:Today, we're diving into the crucial topic, the importance of emotional and physical intimacy in marriage.
Speaker A:Whether you've been married for decades or just starting your journey, understanding how emotional and physical intimacy work together can transform your relationship.
Speaker B:So grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let's explore how to cultivate a marriage rooted in love, faith, and deep connection.
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Speaker A:Teresa we're going to dive into a topic today that is really important for everybody, every married couple.
Speaker A:We want to talk about why emotional and physical intimacy matter in a Christian marriage.
Speaker A:So as Christian couples, we know that marriage is more than just a legal bond.
Speaker A:It's not a contract.
Speaker A:It's not something that we.
Speaker A:We set up and go through a ceremony, and then if one of us decides not to.
Speaker A:To fulfill it, or just that they're tired, they can't just leave.
Speaker A:It's a covenant.
Speaker A:It's a sacred union designed by God.
Speaker A:But to truly thrive in a marriage, we must nurture both the emotional intimacy and the physical intimacy.
Speaker A:Right, Theresa?
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:So we're talking today about emotional intimacy.
Speaker B:It is the fact that foundation of friendship in marriage, emotional intimacy is the glue that holds a marriage together.
Speaker A:Isn't it true, Teresa?
Speaker A:It's all about trust, vulnerability, and deep conversations that strengthen our friendship.
Speaker A:Right?
Speaker B:That is so true.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker B:That's what we've done for 33 plus years.
Speaker B:And it has really developed our friendship.
Speaker A: It reminds me of Proverbs: Speaker A:And this applies to marriage.
Speaker A:When both spouses invest in emotional connection, they stay sharpened and strengthen each other.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:It really doesn't work the same when it's just one person in the marriage and the spouse is not doing the same thing.
Speaker B:And of course, you're going to approach it differently as a man and as a woman.
Speaker B:But both people really need to be investing in the marriage, especially for this emotional connection.
Speaker A:And this is a topic that a lot of Christian couples struggle with is the aspect of physical intimacy.
Speaker A:There's so many questions about it and so many.
Speaker A:Everybody's different.
Speaker A:And even you're.
Speaker A:You.
Speaker A:You're different in different times of your.
Speaker A:Your marriage and different phases of your marriage and different phases of your.
Speaker A:Of your life.
Speaker A:Things, things change, things improve.
Speaker A:It doesn't mean that it can be less, but it can be just as fulfilling and wonderful in your 70s and 80s as it was in your 20s.
Speaker A:It really can.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:You can feel as close to your spouse, no matter your age.
Speaker A:If you're in your 70s or your 80s, you can feel as close to your spouse as you did when you're your newlyweds.
Speaker A:Like Teresa said, we've been married for 33 years.
Speaker A:Our friendship has never been stronger.
Speaker A:I feel as close as Teresa now or even closer to her now than if I did on our wedding day.
Speaker A:I really do.
Speaker A:That's not.
Speaker A:No, I'm not just saying that.
Speaker A:I really do and I feel a strong emotional connection to you.
Speaker A:And our physical intimacy is.
Speaker A:Is very deep.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Now, we all know that physical intimacy is much, much more than romance.
Speaker A:It's an expression of love, unity and commitment.
Speaker A:I know we've gotten some nasty grams in the past talking about how.
Speaker A:How physical intimacy has a spiritual aspect to it, right?
Speaker A:People disagreeing with that, not liking that.
Speaker A:It really does, doesn't it?
Speaker B:Oh, absolutely.
Speaker B:I mean, the Lord does say that through Paul in the New Testament, that you Become one with someone when you are physically intimate in this way, even if you're not married to that person.
Speaker B:So if people are not staying with their spouse and they're physical with someone else, they're becoming one with another person.
Speaker B:So it's very dangerous territory not to keep this in the marriage because it does make you one spiritually with someone through that physical intimacy.
Speaker B:It's amazing how God designed it.
Speaker B:But it's supposed to be beautiful for marriage, right?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:And we know when emotional intimacy is strong, physical intimacy becomes more meaningful and fulfilling.
Speaker A:If you read through first Corinthians, chapter seven, verses three and five, it reminds us that the physical intimacy is a gift in marriage meant to bring spouses closer together.
Speaker A:Let's go over some things we talked about before.
Speaker A:Men, your wife needs to feel close to you emotionally to open up to you physically.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Wives, your husband needs to be close to you physically to open up to you emotionally.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker A:Physical intimacy is the most unique aspect of our marriage.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:It is something we don't share with anybody.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:It's God has put a safety boundary around it and given us great boundaries and guidelines.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:And it can be so fulfilling, so wonderful.
Speaker A:It's so special.
Speaker A:That is it.
Speaker A:That's why it's really on the same level as emotions, intimacy, as is in its importance, right?
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Teresa, let's talk about a wise major needs.
Speaker A:She needs security, right.
Speaker A:These security and relationship that her husband is committed to her.
Speaker A:She needs soft non sexual affection.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:She needs deep and open communication.
Speaker A:And she needs spiritual leadership.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:And it be wrong for me to withhold any of those things from you.
Speaker A:Those are gifts that I, I can minister to you and I can give you as a husband to my, my bride.
Speaker B:It's kind of like you're calling as a.
Speaker B:As a Christian husband, right?
Speaker A:Oh, that is so good.
Speaker A:That's a calling.
Speaker A:So people wonder what's my calling?
Speaker A:What's my purpose?
Speaker A:Well, if you're married, your calling and purpose is to serve your wife in those areas.
Speaker A:Now, on the other side, ladies, you're a husband.
Speaker A:He needs honor and respect, right?
Speaker B:Number one, he needs that.
Speaker A:He needs physical affection.
Speaker A:And to withhold that would be wrong.
Speaker A:He needs companionship.
Speaker A:He wants to be best friends with you.
Speaker A:He really does.
Speaker A:He wants to do fun things with you.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker A:He does.
Speaker A:He really does want to do those things.
Speaker A:And he needs domestic support.
Speaker A:And domestic support is not cooking, cleaning and sewing.
Speaker A:It's not those things.
Speaker A:A lady, a woman, has this Gift of turning a house into a home.
Speaker A:And she just has this gift.
Speaker A:And so it's not.
Speaker A:So that's the domestic support I'm talking about.
Speaker A:She knows how colors go together and how things should look.
Speaker A:And she just has this gift to bless her husband.
Speaker A:So, ladies, you might be wondering, well, what's my calling?
Speaker A:What's.
Speaker A:What's my purpose?
Speaker A:Right, Your purpose and your calling is to honor your husband.
Speaker B:Honor your husband.
Speaker A:Bless him with a gift of physical intimacy.
Speaker B:Be best friends.
Speaker A:Best friend.
Speaker B:Best friend.
Speaker A:Provide the message for it.
Speaker B:Be.
Speaker A:It is wrong for you to withhold those things from your husband.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker A:So that's why we're talking about the importance of emotional and physical intimacy in marriage.
Speaker A:You can't neglect.
Speaker A:And we.
Speaker A:And problem is this the busyness.
Speaker B:Mm.
Speaker A:It's the busyness of people's lives that are preventing them from fulfilling the calling that God has in their life to.
Speaker A:To do those things again.
Speaker A:We are.
Speaker A:There are different stages of life.
Speaker A:There's different stages of marriage.
Speaker A:There's the stages where, you know, you're.
Speaker A:You're the.
Speaker A:We're not gonna go over them today.
Speaker A:You're newlyweds, and you have kids.
Speaker A:And then kids are busy with school and sports and teenagers and college and their empty nesters.
Speaker A:And there's different stages of your life.
Speaker A:You can't let things get so busy that you neglect your spouse.
Speaker A:Because we know that in the last decade that for empty nesters, the divorce rate has doubled.
Speaker A:In the same time, the divorce rate for those in their 60s has tripled.
Speaker A:So people are getting married.
Speaker A:They're raising their children.
Speaker A:The children get out of the house.
Speaker A:And they are not.
Speaker A:They're not friends, Right?
Speaker B:They're not friends.
Speaker A:They have no grown up quote, grown apart, whatever.
Speaker A:What they mean is they haven't grown intentionally and grown together.
Speaker A:So that's why we.
Speaker B:The marriage got kind of pushed to the side.
Speaker A:The marriage got pushed aside in the favor of kids.
Speaker A:Kids are important.
Speaker A:I realized that.
Speaker A:And we're not saying kids aren't important, but they're not.
Speaker A:You don't sacrifice your marriage for your kids.
Speaker B:That's good.
Speaker A:We want you to be best friends.
Speaker A:So your husbands and wives should be friends for life.
Speaker A:As you build on your friendship, you will build on your marriage.
Speaker A:Right, Teresa?
Speaker B:That is excellent.
Speaker A:So let's talk real quick, Teresa, about how the strength and emotional intimacy in marriage.
Speaker A:If you want to enhance your marriage, start by deepening your emotional intimacy.
Speaker A:Now, here are some practical ways.
Speaker A:We talked about this before.
Speaker A:How to do that.
Speaker A:You gotta prioritize meaningful conversations.
Speaker A:So one of our main friendship builders is to have a daily check in, set aside daily check ins to share thoughts, feelings, and prayers.
Speaker A:Like ask questions of each other.
Speaker A:What was the best part of your day today?
Speaker A:How can I support you this week?
Speaker A:You know, just talk to each other, have questions where you more than just how was your day?
Speaker A:You got these conversations you got to share.
Speaker A:Well, I didn't do anything today.
Speaker A:I just worked.
Speaker A:Well, your wife needs to know more than that.
Speaker B:Right?
Speaker B:Right, exactly.
Speaker A:Now, number two, Teresa.
Speaker B:Oh, yes.
Speaker B:The next one is practice active listening.
Speaker B:So we've talked about this recently.
Speaker B:Also, you have to show your spouse that you're truly hearing them.
Speaker B:You know, we've all known what it's like to talk to someone and feel like they're just not registering what you're saying.
Speaker B:They're not really taking in what you're saying.
Speaker B:So we have to listen with intention, with giving them our full attention.
Speaker A:Put down the phone.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Interrupting them.
Speaker B:Let them share what they're going to share.
Speaker B:And like you said.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Put away any distractions so that you can have a meaningful conversation and it won't be notifications or something else pulling their attention away.
Speaker B:That's so important.
Speaker B:So showing your spouse that you're truly listening is very important.
Speaker B:And then you repeat back to them what they just said to make sure that you're hearing what they're saying and you're not filtering it and getting something totally different out of it.
Speaker B:And you can find that out when you repeat back what.
Speaker B:What you thought they said.
Speaker B:Now, I just heard you say this and this and this.
Speaker B:So then they can tell you, you.
Speaker B:Yes, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker B:Or no, I didn't say that at all.
Speaker B:And that that takes time to have that kind of conversation and do it without any, you know, offense being received.
Speaker B:Either way.
Speaker B:You know, if you're sharing something or if you're listening, you know, don't get offended over that.
Speaker B:Just try to show understanding with each other.
Speaker A:And we also need to express appreciation and affirmation.
Speaker A:We need to speak words of encouragement every day to our spouse.
Speaker A:Say things like, I appreciate how hard you work for our family.
Speaker A:I love how you always make me laugh.
Speaker A:Thank you for the great job that you do with the children.
Speaker A:That was a great meal.
Speaker A:Thank you so much for making that.
Speaker A:Show appreciation for each other, for little things that you do for each other.
Speaker A:Because you do little things for each other.
Speaker A:Don't lose sight of that.
Speaker A:Make it a point to be intentional with your appreciation.
Speaker B:Mm.
Speaker B:That's so important because a lot of those little things can seem to go unnoticed.
Speaker B:And then, you know, the, the spouse that's doing a lot of things and not hearing any appreciation probably feels like I'm being taken for granted.
Speaker B:I'm doing all these things and doing my part to invest in the family and the relationship, and I'm not hearing any feedback.
Speaker B:Am I doing a good job?
Speaker B:Is this what you like or don't like?
Speaker B:You know, so we do we have to share appreciation?
Speaker B:Because, you know, in this world it is so easy to feel like you're overlooked, unappreciated, underpaid, all of that.
Speaker B:And we don't want that to be the atmosphere in our home at all, especially not in our marriage.
Speaker A:Teresa, let's talk about ways we can strengthen physical intimacy in marriage.
Speaker A:Like we said just a few minutes ago, physical intimacy, sex is a vital part of marriage, but it thrives when emotional intimacy is strong.
Speaker A:Let's talk about the importance of cultivating both of them.
Speaker A:Teresa.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Number one, you gotta prioritize quality time together.
Speaker A:You guys gotta do it on purpose.
Speaker A:So you gotta schedule date nights to reconnect and to enjoy each other's company.
Speaker A:Now, I know how it is with kids.
Speaker A:I know how it's kids and it's hard to find a babysitter.
Speaker A:We know, we've been through that.
Speaker A:We know that.
Speaker A:But there are ways to have date nights inside your home.
Speaker B:That's true.
Speaker A:So we have, I think we have some date night ideas.
Speaker A:So if you like the date night, some a free date PDF on date night ideas, just drop date nights in the, in the comment or an email and we'll send that to you.
Speaker A:So, but we need to schedule date nights or just time alone to reconnect and enjoy each other's company.
Speaker A:Also, we gotta try new activities together.
Speaker A:You gotta do new things where it's cooking.
Speaker A:We started cooking new meals together, meals that we haven't really made before and we really like them, right?
Speaker A:And it may be a physical activity like hiking or bicycling or just simply taking a walk.
Speaker A:You gotta just do things together.
Speaker A:And it doesn't have to cost a lot of money because I know in different stages of life, money can be tighter than other stages.
Speaker A:So there's ways to do this, you know, make some tea or coffee and go someplace and to a park and talk.
Speaker A:It doesn't have to be expensive, right?
Speaker B:So another great way to build the, strengthen the physical intimacy and the emotional intimacy is to show affection daily.
Speaker B:So the Physical intimacy is not all in the bedroom.
Speaker B:It needs to be a daily thing.
Speaker B:You know, you, you held hands with each other when you said your vows and got married.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:And you were holding hands and kissing and hugging before you got married.
Speaker B:So why would that stop after you got married?
Speaker B:It's not.
Speaker B:Ooh, you know, it's wonderful to have that physical touch.
Speaker B:That's something that everybody needs.
Speaker B:So little small gestures like holding hands, hugging, kissing, these all build your connection.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:Whenever you want to be leaving, give the other one a kiss.
Speaker A:When you come and we come back together, whoever it is, this wife coming home or the husband coming home, greet him or her with a hug and a kiss, Greet them, right.
Speaker A:To keep building that connection.
Speaker B:And now if you were not coming from a hugging family, you're just going to have to learn to receive hugs and give more hugs.
Speaker B:I know there are some families, like, we did not hug each other.
Speaker B:We didn't really touch.
Speaker B:You know, there was no physical touch in our family with parents and children or between members of the family.
Speaker B:And, you know, that's kind of sad, but if that was your background, you can learn to do this because it's so important for your marriage.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:We just all have to leave some things behind that were not the healthiest examples and step into what's best for our marriage.
Speaker B:So this really is, like you said, that goodbye kiss or that welcome home kiss.
Speaker B:Those, those are so sweet.
Speaker B:They really are so sweet.
Speaker B:You just feel like, wow, they've been thinking about me all day and just so ready to see me and, and show affection.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker B:That's really a blessing.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Because the physical touch releases oxytocin, which is the bonding hormone which strengthens your emotional connection.
Speaker A:Husbands, like we said before, your wife needs soft.
Speaker A:It's returned it.
Speaker A:That's me.
Speaker A:Let me.
Speaker A:We emphasize that soft non sexual affection on a daily basis.
Speaker A:She doesn't need walk by, slap her behind, and, you know, just be rough with her.
Speaker A:She needs soft, non sexual affection.
Speaker B:That is so true.
Speaker B:I can attest to that.
Speaker A:Now we also need to work on keeping romance alive.
Speaker A:Moms who stay home are working moms, so you're both working.
Speaker A:And at the end of the week you can be tired, or at the end of the day you can be tired, but you gotta sometimes press through and keep the romance alive.
Speaker A:Now you can surprise your spouse with love notes, thoughtful gifts, or spontaneous acts of kindness.
Speaker A:You got to be intentional about your intimacy.
Speaker A:You got to create a space for both emotional and physical connection can flourish.
Speaker A:Now you Might even have to put it on the calendar.
Speaker A:Friday night, Saturday morning, Tuesday morning, Tuesday night.
Speaker A:Whatever's on your calendar, you put on your counter.
Speaker A:That's where we're going to be physically intimate and so that you can plan on it, make preparations, you know, make sure that things are done early in the afternoon or early in the evening so that you both are free to get ready for bed and just have a time of connection that's so important.
Speaker B:And yeah, make sure the kids are in bed and asleep, all of that.
Speaker B:And it doesn't take the spontaneity out of it.
Speaker B:It just makes sure that, like you said, you're being intentional.
Speaker B:And this doesn't keep getting overlooked or scheduled out or, you know, all the busyness is not crowding this out of your married life.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:It's a misunderstanding, I guess, a misnomer that physical intimacy has to be spontaneous or.
Speaker A:Or it's not real.
Speaker A:That's not true.
Speaker A:You know, if.
Speaker A:If your husband planned a birthday party for you, you would enjoy it.
Speaker A:It wasn't spontaneous.
Speaker A:It was planned.
Speaker A:So there's nothing wrong with planning intimacy.
Speaker A:There really isn't.
Speaker A:And you can actually talk about your plans.
Speaker A:And we have some marriage builders about that later at another time about how to enhance physical intimacy or.
Speaker A:But you had to be intentional, right, Theresa?
Speaker A:And that helps.
Speaker A:I think that helps a wife prepare, right?
Speaker B:Yeah, that's what I was thinking.
Speaker B:If you're thinking about that during the day, it really does help you prepare, not just emotionally, but physically.
Speaker B:Your body is getting ready for that kind of encounter, and that's so much better.
Speaker B:I think it's much more enjoyable for the wife when she can think for romantically about her husband all during the day and the sweet little things he's doing, like sending texts or left her a nice note that morning or got her some flowers or whatever it is.
Speaker B:It doesn't even have to cost money, but it could be a sweet text love note.
Speaker A:You guys can pray together, you can read a devotion together.
Speaker A:It's just.
Speaker A:You have some friendship builder conversations exist.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:A foot rub goes a long way.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Like Gary Smalley said years ago and, and there's great books on marriage.
Speaker A:And he said men are like microwaves and women are like crock pots.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:So I mean, men are instantly on, like, as soon as the wife mentions that she's interested, he is ready to go.
Speaker A:But a wife, she needs to warm up and think about things.
Speaker A:Because remember, guys, your wife connects to you emotionally.
Speaker A:So if she's dealing with the kids all day and she's keeping the house clean and then the kids come home, she has to take the kids to school, do a bunch of chores, get the kids back from school, help them with their homework, fix your dinner, serve the dinner with the.
Speaker A:And get the kids to eat and then get the kids to bed and then she has to clean the dishes and put all that away and then she has to do the laundry.
Speaker A:You know, don't expect her to be ready emotionally for you because she spent all that other time with her mind, her mind occupied with all these other things.
Speaker A:So, so you know what, you can help her with those areas.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Do the dishes, help put the kids to bed, just take a load off of her and take a share.
Speaker A:Which I think that husband should do anyway.
Speaker A:Even if there's not a special night planned to also to help because you're co laborers.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:You're both the parents.
Speaker B:You're both the parents and it's both your.
Speaker B:It's both of your house.
Speaker B:I mean, yeah, you should share all those responsibilities for sure, whether the mom is at home or she's a working mom.
Speaker A:So as Christians, we have the privilege of looking to scripture for wisdom on marriage.
Speaker A:Here are some powerful verses that highlight the importance of intimacy.
Speaker A:Genesis 2:24.
Speaker A:This is why a man leaves his father and mother as united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Speaker B:Song of Solomon 4:9 in the new living translation says, you have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride, you hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes, with a single jewel of your necklace.
Speaker A:Ephesians 5:25 in the ESV.
Speaker A:Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
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Speaker A:So this week's friendship builder, Teresa is When you're kissing, no pecs, no quick pecks.
Speaker A:We want some deep spirit spiritual kissing.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Some deep kisses.
Speaker A:K kisses that will curl your toes.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Thrill your heart, thrill your heart, thrill your toes.
Speaker A:Take her breath away.
Speaker A:Give her a kiss like you've never done it before.
Speaker A:And long hugs.
Speaker A:Hug when you Leave in the morning and hug when you come back at night.
Speaker A:30 seconds.
Speaker A:30 seconds is a long time, but.
Speaker B:It seems like a long time.
Speaker A:You enjoy it.
Speaker A:What do you think about those, Teresa?
Speaker B:Yeah, I really like that because like you said, if it's busyness that's been a problem, then usually husbands and wives don't take time for nice deep kisses or long hugs.
Speaker B:It's just a pecking goodbye or peck and hello, you know, not really getting to connect in that physical way.
Speaker B:Even though it's not sexual, it can be very romantic and very stirring so that you know, if you are planning something or even if you weren't planning something, then, hey, that's a great way to get inspired to have physical intimacy soon, you know, and in that evening or whatever.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:Yeah, I like that because that's, that's what you did when you were dating, when you were newly married.
Speaker B:You just wanted those deep kisses.
Speaker B:You wanted to stay connected as much as you could.
Speaker B:And we should never lose that just because we've been married longer than newlyweds.
Speaker B:We should never lose that.
Speaker A:As we wrap up Teresa.
Speaker A:Strengthening emotional and physical intimacy in marriage is a journey.
Speaker A:But it's a journey worth taking.
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Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:So we want to close out this in episode with a prayer.
Speaker A:Thank you Lord for the gift of marriage.
Speaker A:Helped us cultivate emotional and physical intimacy that honors you.
Speaker A:Strengthen our friendship, deepen our love and guide us in our journey together.
Speaker A:Amen.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker A:Until next time.
Speaker A:Remember, husbands and wife are friends for life.
