Stop Wasting Time: Let's Talk About Love!
You're losing time, not love, and we’re diving right into that juicy topic today! Ever feel like you and your partner are just cohabitating without really connecting? It's like you're side by side, but miles apart. Well, it turns out the real problem isn't about the love fading away—it's all about how we're spending our precious time together. We’ll chat about the sneaky ways time drifts away in relationships, how to spot those little time thieves, and of course, how to reclaim those moments that really matter. So grab your favorite drink, sit back, and let's get to the heart of keeping that connection alive! Feeling like your marriage is running on autopilot? You’re not alone! In our latest chat, we dive into the sneaky culprit behind that familiar distance: time. Yes, you heard me right! It’s not that you’re losing love; you’re losing precious time together. Jeff and Teresa, your trusty podcast hosts, share their wisdom on how marriages can drift apart without even noticing. They emphasize that strong connections don’t just happen; they require intentionality! Imagine spending hours on the couch, but instead of bonding, you’re both glued to your phones like they’re the latest binge-worthy show. Ouch! The key takeaway? Make every moment count! It’s about turning mundane time into meaningful memories. So grab your spouse, put down the phones, and let’s start connecting on a deeper level. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about the quantity of time but the quality of those moments spent together!
Takeaways:
- In relationships, it's not love that fades, it's the precious time we let slip away.
- Time is like money in marriage; we can either invest it wisely or waste it.
- Ever felt distant from your partner despite no obvious problems? It's all about time drift.
- Making memories requires effort; two hours on the couch can be wasted or treasured.
- We can easily drift into parallel lives, so let's keep our connection alive and thriving.
- Digital distractions steal our moments together; presence is way more important than perfect timing.
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You're not losing love.
Speaker A:You're losing time.
Speaker A:And God can restore it.
Speaker A:Have you ever felt like nothing was really wrong in your marriage, but somehow you still feel distant?
Speaker A:It's like you're living side by side, but not truly connected.
Speaker A:But what if the real issue isn't love, but time?
Speaker A:Welcome to the Inspiring Marriages Podcast.
Speaker A:We are Jeff and Teresa Fields, and we are thrilled to have you with us today.
Speaker A:Our mission here at Inspiring Marriages is to help Christian couples strengthen their friendship, grow spiritually together, and to experience the marriage that God has designed for them.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker A:And we want to help you strengthen your relationship by deepening your friendship, emotional connection, and spiritual intimacy.
Speaker A:We've been married for 34 years, and we learned that strong marriages don't drift apart overnight, but they drift through unintentional time.
Speaker A:Good morning, Teresa.
Speaker A:How are you today?
Speaker B:I'm doing great.
Speaker B:I'm excited to be here because this is such a major topic that does not really get addressed right.
Speaker A:We started researching this topic, reading scriptures and discussing it and discussing with other couples, really, that you can just lose time.
Speaker A:Time.
Speaker A:Time is just like money.
Speaker A:You can spend it, you can invest it, and you can waste it, right?
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:It's very valuable.
Speaker B:But if we're not using it wisely, it does seem to slip away from us, doesn't it, Jeff?
Speaker A:All right, so let's talk about the real problem.
Speaker A:When there seems like there's distance between couples, let's talk about the real problem, which is time drift.
Speaker A:Now, many couples think they just need better communication.
Speaker A:They just need a date night.
Speaker A:But underneath all that, there's something deeper.
Speaker A:Time has been slipping away.
Speaker A:Right, let's look at Ephesians, chapter 5 and verse 15 and 16.
Speaker A:I'm gonna read out the Amplified classic.
Speaker B:Oh, that's good.
Speaker A:And Paul said, look carefully then how you walk.
Speaker A:Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise, sensible, intelligent people making the very most of the time, buying up each opportunity because the days are evil.
Speaker A:I know that other versions use talk about the term redeem your time.
Speaker A:You know, everyone has redeemed a coupon.
Speaker A:You know what that means?
Speaker A:You or redeem something and you get something.
Speaker A:You take something that and you make you buy back its worth.
Speaker A:And of course, the ultimate example of that is our Christ, our redeemer, who, through what he did on the cross, bought us back.
Speaker A:We were lost, we were worthless.
Speaker A:We had no future.
Speaker A:We lived under a curse.
Speaker A:But he bought us back and made us sons of God, Sons and daughters of God.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:So powerful, recreated our spirits.
Speaker A:It was just, it's just we'll spend an eternity trying to understand those terms and the reality of what, what was done on the cross.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:And it's a reality a lot of into their marriage and 10, 20, 30 years from now they somehow one day say, where did all that time go?
Speaker A:It's just gone.
Speaker A:And, but you know, you know how you know, you have, you have friends or you have acquaintance, acquaintances and they may have a child that you may know that child that they were young.
Speaker A:And then next time you see them, you talk to them about, hey, how's, how's Sally?
Speaker A:Oh, she's in college now.
Speaker A:He said, how can that happen?
Speaker A:How did that happen?
Speaker A:How did that go?
Speaker A:So that's because you didn't have really any connection with them.
Speaker A:There was no memories and moments of connection with that child.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:So it just flies by.
Speaker A:It's just like that in a marriage.
Speaker A:If we're not taking the time to make the most of every opportunity.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:Then it just seems like the time just flies by.
Speaker A:That word time in Ephesians, it's not chronological time, but it's opportunities, it's moments, it's connections.
Speaker A:You know, you can sit on the, on the couch with your spouse and you can watch two hours and you can watch a movie or you can, or you can scroll, waste your time, social media.
Speaker A:And after that two hours, you, you spent two hours, right?
Speaker B:You had no connection, no connection.
Speaker A:But if you spent, put the phones down, turn the TV off and you made eye to eye contact and you asked questions and you shared and there's a real connection.
Speaker A:Then you took those two hours, right, that would have been wasted, and you elevated them and gave them some worth and you created a memory.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Marriage.
Speaker B:Oh yes, yes.
Speaker B:That's how breakthroughs happen.
Speaker B:When you need to connect and talk heart to heart, you actually have some real breakthroughs in your relationship or just maintaining that closeness that, that made you fall in love in the first place.
Speaker B:Having that closeness and knowing what's inside of each other and sharing that, so powerful.
Speaker A:And the scripture doesn't just say this to manage our time, the scriptures tells us to redeem it or to make the most out of every opportunity.
Speaker A:As the Amplified classic says, buy it back.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:So you're talking about opportunities get lost when we're not thinking about time this way.
Speaker B:Important opportunities to not just connect, but to actually do something of purpose with your time.
Speaker B:So I love the next verse, but this is a new living translation.
Speaker B:Verse 17 says, don't act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do, because he has a purpose for every day that we're living on the earth as believers.
Speaker B:He has a purpose every day for your marriage.
Speaker B:What are you supposed to be doing for each other together?
Speaker B:What are you supposed to be doing together?
Speaker B:How are you supposed to be making an impact in other people's lives, not just your children's lives, but with the world around you?
Speaker B:So your marriage has a powerful purpose, and we don't know what that is if we haven't been using our time wisely.
Speaker A:That's so good.
Speaker A:Paul used the term witless.
Speaker A:Witless and unwise.
Speaker A:If you're witless and unwise, time will just pass you by and you'll just wonder, where did time go?
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A: We've been married: Speaker A:Because a lot of the time was just wasted time.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:So, Theresa, let's talk a little bit about how time gets stolen from us.
Speaker A:So if it was obvious or dramatic, I think we would notice it, right?
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker A:Time thieves are really dramatic where it's like, you just kind of just notice it when it's happening.
Speaker A:But the problem with time thieves is they're subtle.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:And if you're not aware, the Paul said that we need to be.
Speaker A:He's tell look carefully then how you should walk live purposefully and worthily and accurately.
Speaker A:I think the King James says, walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise means being aware.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:Let's be aware of what's going on with our marriages.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:We can't let our schedules get so full and our lives so busy that our main accomplishment is getting everything done on the calendar.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:That is just right.
Speaker A:Managing time.
Speaker A:That's not redeeming time.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker B:That's such a dramatic difference.
Speaker B:Yes, that is dramatic.
Speaker B:You know, to see what you could have done with time, but then you were all caught up in these activities and schedules and in meetings and get the kids here and get the kids there.
Speaker B:And where is the relationship building in all of that?
Speaker B:There's no relationship building.
Speaker B:And all that busyness.
Speaker A:There's a lot of busyness.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So one of some.
Speaker A:A time thief we want to talk about is passive living.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:That's when we stop choosing each other intentionally.
Speaker B:Mm.
Speaker A:It's just like we're just.
Speaker A:We're just trying to get things done on our calendar and if we interact, we interact.
Speaker A:And we're not.
Speaker A:Yeah, we're not.
Speaker A:We're not going to this.
Speaker A:To the store together.
Speaker A:We're not running errands together.
Speaker A:We're not talking about things that happened in our day.
Speaker A:We're not talking about things that happened during our quiet time.
Speaker A:We're not talking about things we read in the scripture.
Speaker A:We're not talking about our notes from the sermon, from the Sunday sermon, things that the.
Speaker A:The.
Speaker A:The pastor may have said that said that spoke to you.
Speaker A:You may not.
Speaker A:We're not.
Speaker A:We're not a worship song that you heard that.
Speaker A:That meant something.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:And so we're just not doing things intentionally.
Speaker A:And, you know, I.
Speaker A:Successful Christian married life is a life where you lead with intention.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:Doing things purposely.
Speaker A:And not everything has to be spontaneous.
Speaker A:Right, Right.
Speaker A:We can do things intentionally.
Speaker B:It's keeping that as a priority, like you said, being intentional to spend time together, to choose ways to use your time that you are actually connecting.
Speaker B:All those things that you mentioned were so good.
Speaker B:Reading scripture together or sharing what you heard in the pastor's message or what you read in your devotion time, how the Lord is speaking to you.
Speaker B:Those are all just beautiful ways to connect in your marriage and have that spiritual connection that really undergirds everything else.
Speaker B:And of course, we've talked about this in so many of our episodes.
Speaker B:Having fun together, just intending to spend time together, doing something fun, doing something that's interesting or, you know, a hobby together that's enjoyable for both of you.
Speaker B:That.
Speaker B:That just is quality time, as we used to say.
Speaker B:That's quality time for your marriage.
Speaker A:I think another time Thief Teresa.
Speaker A:That.
Speaker A:That doing our research on this, we see is.
Speaker A:Is parallel lives.
Speaker A:Now, you might live in the same house, you might live.
Speaker A:Sleep in the same bed, but you're not.
Speaker A:But you're living parallel lives.
Speaker A:You're not living intersecting lives.
Speaker A:You both got.
Speaker A:There's so much.
Speaker A:There's so much going on.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:You know, maybe one of you is helping more with the kids than the other.
Speaker A:Or you got chores in the house, got chores outside the house.
Speaker A:You got things, just a lot of things going on.
Speaker A:You're in the same house, but you're in different worlds and you develop different interests.
Speaker A:And not that you both have to watch the same TV show all the time.
Speaker A:Or do you know, just because Teresa is great with her hands, she does great needlework or crocheting.
Speaker A:Crocheting things.
Speaker A:Well, I don't have to pick that up.
Speaker B:No, that wouldn't be fun for you.
Speaker A:But you know, I'm talking about stuff like that, but there needs to be stuff we do together.
Speaker B:Right, Right.
Speaker B:I'm thinking about, like, the husband has his set of friends.
Speaker B:The wife has her set of friends.
Speaker B:They might be people you each know in your workplaces or places that you go frequently or your workout buddies.
Speaker B:But if you're not having that same kind of friendship together, then you are, like, living in different worlds.
Speaker B:He's got his workplace, his friends.
Speaker B:She's got her workplace, even if it's at the home, and her friends.
Speaker B:But you're never really connecting.
Speaker B:Like you say, being intentional about connecting.
Speaker B:It is like living in two different worlds.
Speaker B:And that'd be very sad to be strangers in your marriage, you know, strangers in your own home.
Speaker B:We.
Speaker B:We would not want that for anyone's marriage.
Speaker A:And we know about the.
Speaker A:There's.
Speaker A:It's called the gray divorce rate, where couples.
Speaker A:The divorce rate for couples 65 and older has tripled in the last generation.
Speaker A:And because.
Speaker A:And there's different reasons for it, but one of the reasons is that the couple is so focused on the kids or careers that by the time the kids leave the house, they realize they have nothing in common.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:And they're not.
Speaker A:They're not really friends.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:That's very sad.
Speaker A:Divorce.
Speaker A:Another thing we know, and everyone knows about this one.
Speaker A:The third time thief we want to talk about today is those digital distractions.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:How many dates have we been on where we see a couple at another table, they're both absorbed in their own phones and having no conversation?
Speaker A:Well, you know, we see all kinds.
Speaker A:Interactions.
Speaker A:Sometimes there's silence, and they're just eating in silence, and they're kind of not even looking at each other.
Speaker A:They're just eating, and they're.
Speaker A:We see so many couples or families get seated after us, and they leave way before us.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:It's just like, get this done.
Speaker B:Get this over with.
Speaker A:And I understand when you have kids, you want to get in and out as fast as you can because there's a certain point.
Speaker A:The kids are done.
Speaker B:Yeah, they're done.
Speaker A:If they have their food, they're ready to go, and they'll start acting up.
Speaker A:I understand that, but I'm talking about when you have an opportunity to get out of the house and have an opportunity to connect, make eye contact and talk.
Speaker B:Yes, yes.
Speaker A:That.
Speaker A:What the problem with is that the phones are replacing presence.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:We may be sitting there together, but we're not present together.
Speaker B:Mm.
Speaker A:If your mind is on something else, and then you're really not Together, Yes.
Speaker B:And you have to be present for each other because to me, that's one of the most valuable things you can give to your spouse is I'm here, I'm available, I'm interested in what you need to talk about.
Speaker B:I want to be here for you if you're having a problem.
Speaker B:I mean, that is that security factor, I guess, that we talk about so much that are so valuable to wives.
Speaker B:But I know to husbands too, if he doesn't have a supportive wife that's ready to listen and be concerned about what he's concerned about, or just say, honey, I'm with you.
Speaker B:You know, if you're fighting something at work and, or you're dealing with a problem, I'm with you.
Speaker B:You know, even if I don't know how to solve it, I'm encouraging you that you can do this.
Speaker B:And, you know, you've got what it takes and the Lord will help you, you know, that is, you can't replace that with anything on your phone or anything else.
Speaker A:I think it's just gotten more obvious with.
Speaker B:The phones, people having everything on their phone.
Speaker A:We are, we came from a generation where we didn't have phones.
Speaker A:When you first started dating, no phones were just coming out.
Speaker A:Cell phones were just coming out commonplace.
Speaker A:And people, some of the wealthier people had cell phones, but the Motorola's and the other things were coming commonplace.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:When we started, really, when we started dating, there were.
Speaker A:People had to have early 90s and to have a cell phone was.
Speaker A:Was novel.
Speaker A:It was not commonplace.
Speaker A:But people have.
Speaker A:People were distracted then by other things.
Speaker A:They had no newspapers or had television or there was other things they just.
Speaker A:That were distracted.
Speaker A:So it's not inherently wrong with a phone.
Speaker A:It's just a tool.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:But you can't let it replace presence.
Speaker A:So a few weeks ago, Teresa and I went and saw the new Elvis movie called Epic Elvis Presley in concert.
Speaker A:And one of the lines he said in that movie, that which really struck us, he said, even in the crowd, I feel an intense loneliness in my heart.
Speaker A:And when we, right.
Speaker A:When we, we heard that, we saw that and you know, and we, we thought, how sad that someone who could be surrounded by so many people, admired by millions and still.
Speaker A:Still feel alone.
Speaker A:Because proximity is not intimacy.
Speaker A:And the same quiet loneliness unfortunately can exist in marriage.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker B:I mean, you can have great friends.
Speaker B:He had a lot of music buddies and people that he was constantly playing music with and performing with.
Speaker B:But that's just not the same as a godly deep, you Know, marriage that has depth, that has connection, that has just such a beauty to the relationship.
Speaker B:I mean, God didn't intend for your spouse to cure all of your loneliness.
Speaker B:I mean, he wants to be that for everyone.
Speaker B:But to have a partner in life that is like minded with you, that is going in the same direction and sharing, you're sharing everything together, the joys and the sorrows and going through chapters of life together, that's so powerful.
Speaker B:And you know, to be lonely even though you're surrounded by people you know, just shows that, yeah, that can happen in a marriage.
Speaker B:There are people that are lonely in their marriages because they haven't learned how to have that, that depth and that sustaining quality of friendship in their marriage relationship.
Speaker A:But we have some good news.
Speaker A:Yes, there is hope.
Speaker B:There is hope.
Speaker A:There is we.
Speaker A:There is hope in redeeming the time.
Speaker A:So here's the good news.
Speaker A:God just doesn't restore hearts.
Speaker A:He also restores time.
Speaker B:Yes, yes.
Speaker B:He knows how valuable time is here on this earth because our lives are so short.
Speaker B:In the, in the context of eternity, a lifespan is a very short amount of time.
Speaker A:He restores time.
Speaker A:In Joel or Joel, chapter 2, verse 25 in the Amplified classic, it says, I will restore or replace for you the years that the locust has eaten.
Speaker A:The hopping locust, the stripping locust, and the crawling locusts, my great army which I sent among you, you shall eat in plenty and be satisfied and praise the name of the Lord your God, who has dealt wondrously with you, and.
Speaker A:And my people shall never be, never be put to shame.
Speaker B:Wow, that's powerful.
Speaker B:So powerful.
Speaker A:You have anything to say, Teresa?
Speaker B:So what he's talking about is a very vivid description of the kind of destruction that can happen when, like you said at the beginning of this episode, when you don't realize that something's being stolen from you.
Speaker B:But the devastation can be just as graphic as looking at the wasteland of what used to be beautiful crops growing in a field.
Speaker B:And locusts come through and completely devastate everything.
Speaker B:You know, there's no leaf left.
Speaker B:There's no little sprig growing up out of the ground.
Speaker B:There's none of the harvest left.
Speaker B:It's all eaten or destroyed.
Speaker B:So God is talking about restoring time even if devastation has happened.
Speaker B:And that's.
Speaker B:That shows how great our God is.
Speaker B:When you think, you know, you've lost too much time.
Speaker B:It's been too long.
Speaker B:There's been too much heartache or heartbreak.
Speaker B:There's been too much loss of connection for us to ever See this marriage be resurrected.
Speaker B:Well, God can do it because he's promising he can even restore lost time.
Speaker B:Time where there was destruction or there was loss of connection, There was a marriage that looked like it was failing.
Speaker B:But that's not too big for God, is it, Jeff?
Speaker A:It's not too big.
Speaker A:And let me.
Speaker A:Let me assure you, God will restore the time.
Speaker A:He will do it because he promised he would.
Speaker A:And he doesn't lie.
Speaker A:He will restore.
Speaker A:You'll make it like it never happened.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:It's not like you go, you've been married for 30 years, now you're back to 10 years.
Speaker A:No, it's not like you go back 20 years in your age.
Speaker A:But he'll take the moments that you have and he'll teach you how to redeem those moments and make connections and to make memories in your time.
Speaker A:And it will just fill up your life and you'll just have these wonderful moments of connection and just go stronger with each other and stronger with Him.
Speaker A:But we have a practical reset plan.
Speaker A:This is practical.
Speaker A:This is so simple.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:Even I understand how to do this.
Speaker A:Number one, this is simple.
Speaker A:It's the five minute daily reset.
Speaker A:So five minutes a day, but it's daily.
Speaker A:You sit.
Speaker A:You're not just, you know, you're not talking from another room.
Speaker A:You know, no one's talking from the kitchen into the living room.
Speaker A:No one's talking from the living room to the kitchen.
Speaker A:Wherever you are together, you sit.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Number two, you talk.
Speaker A:Three, no distractions.
Speaker A:You don't need a television on.
Speaker A:You don't need to be listening to anybody else.
Speaker A:Don't need to have the radio on.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:If you need to go in the car and do it, turn off the radio.
Speaker A:Driving in a car for five minutes, well, it's kind of hard to make eye contact unless you park someplace.
Speaker A:But you need to have eye contact.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:That is so important.
Speaker A:Cannot overemphasize the importance of eye contact and in interactions.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:Teresa?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:I think I've seen a video before where a parent was kind of absorbed with their phone and their little child.
Speaker B:Usually it's like a toddler, you know, trying to talk to them and say, mommy, mommy, you know, or daddy, daddy, look at this.
Speaker B:Or trying to tell them something that was important to the child, but the parent is absorbed in the phone.
Speaker B:So the child just has to come up and practically knock the phone out of their hands so they'll look at them, give them eye contact.
Speaker B:So even little children know if you're not looking at Them.
Speaker B:If you're not making eye contact, you're really not giving them your attention, and that's.
Speaker B:That's so important.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:Eye contact is very powerful.
Speaker B:It's very nourishing to us.
Speaker B:For someone to look us in the eyes and speak to us sincerely, that.
Speaker B:That just speaks volumes to your heart.
Speaker B:Like we said before, that you're present, that you're there with them.
Speaker B:You know that they're important to you, and you want to hear what they have to say.
Speaker B:So I love that.
Speaker A:Number two, you schedule it because it matters.
Speaker A:Whatever time works for you, maybe it's in the morning for you, maybe it's in the midday, it might be at night.
Speaker A:But you make sure you schedule that time.
Speaker A:If it matters, you.
Speaker A:You got to protect it.
Speaker A:And if you schedule it, you'll protect it.
Speaker B:We schedule other things that we think are important.
Speaker B:So this is so important for your marriage.
Speaker B:It really needs to be scheduled in your day.
Speaker A:We have dear friends, pastors.
Speaker A:Every day at a certain time, it was family prayer time.
Speaker A:And their boys knew no matter where they were, right, they better get home because it was family prayer time.
Speaker A:At a certain time, even if they were off at an overnight stay, they would come back home for family prayer time because they knew that family prayer time was important.
Speaker B:And they're such a strong family.
Speaker B:And that couple, the pastors, have such a healthy, strong marriage.
Speaker B:You can tell whenever you talk to them, they are so in sync with each other.
Speaker B:You could say they're just always fine tuning, you know, their marriage and keeping their family strong.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:It's beautiful.
Speaker B:It's really beautiful.
Speaker A:So, number one, with a five minute reset, daily reset.
Speaker A:Two, schedule it.
Speaker A:Three, pray together.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Got to invite God into our time.
Speaker A:Not just talking about our problems.
Speaker B:Mm.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:I'm sure he'd like to hear more about what's on your heart than just your problems.
Speaker B:I mean, yes.
Speaker B:Inviting him into your time.
Speaker B:You know, that.
Speaker B:That phrase just reminds me that, you know, we've heard it in songs before, like God, the eternal God, stepped into time.
Speaker B:You know, when Jesus was sent to the earth, he entered into time for us to live a life as a human.
Speaker B:But he already knew what we dealt with.
Speaker B:But to experience it and be there in the midst of humankind and feeling everything that we feel and going through, everything we go through.
Speaker B:He's not afraid of you inviting him into a difficult situation or when you just can't seem to communicate.
Speaker B:If you come together and invite him in and pray, it just.
Speaker B:It just lifts everything to another level.
Speaker B:It just opens things up, possibilities that you didn't know existed.
Speaker B:Because that's how God is.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:So you may not be able to go back and change what happened yesterday, but you can redeem what's in front of you.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:So if this, this podcast resonated with you, we create a free seven day devotional called From Lonely to Best Friends Again.
Speaker A:It's designed to help you reconnect step by step.
Speaker A:Download it today and start redeeming your time.
Speaker A:There'll be a link in the description in the podcast.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:So thankful that you that you're with us today in the description.
Speaker A:We also have the links to all three videos where we talked about this subject on YouTube, so that will be available in the description.
Speaker A:And remember, God designed husband and wife.
Speaker B:To be friends for life.
