Don’t Let Yesterday Steal Tomorrow: Building a Brighter Marriage

Welcome to the Inspiring Marriages podcast.

We are Jeff and Teresa Fields, and we are thrilled to have you with us today.

Our mission at Inspiring Marriages is to help Christian couples strengthen their friendship, grow spiritually together, and to experience the marriage that God has designed from them.

Teresa, today we’re talking about something critical, talking about forgiveness, healing, and moving forward.

Yeah.

Such great topics.

You are going to be so blessed with this, this podcast, because forgiveness is something we need every day.

Right.

And something we know.

Every marriage experiences hurt.

If you’ve been married in any amount of time, you’ve experienced hurt.

But healthy marriages know how to heal.

That’s right.

So, Teresa, in this first segment, we’re going to talk about the marriage killer that most couples never see.

Yes, this, this will really surprise you, possibly that you may not known that this was eroding your marriage, but it goes on so quietly, it’s not loud and noticeable most of the time.

So this, this will really be helpful for you.

The marriage killer most couples never see.

If I asked you what destroys most marriages, what would you say?

Maybe you think about an affair.

Maybe you think about financial problems, constant over arguing, or poor communication.

Those things certainly damages marriages, but we don’t think they are what quietly destroys most healthy marriages.

We think the greatest danger often goes unnoticed.

It’s the little hurts, all the little disappointments, the harsh words that were never talked about, the unmet expectations, the apologies that never came.

And over time, these little things begin building walls between the two people who genuinely love each other.

The tragedy is that most couples don’t even realize is happening until they wake up one day feeling like strangers.

But there’s good news.

God doesn’t just show us how to build strong marriages.

He also shows us how to heal one.

Today we want to share with you four biblical principles that can help you recognize this hidden marriage killer.

This hidden marriage killer before it steals your friendship, your joy, and your connection.

Let’s dive in.

Small offenses become big problems.

Teresa, we know that in the Song of Solomon, chapter 2, verse 15, Solomon wrote, Catch the little foxes.

It’s the little foxes that spoil the vines.

What is, what it means is it’s the small things that if you let it go untreated or you just kind of ignore it, it’ll just go away.

Things will just get better.

In reality, it’s what’s going to spoil the whole harvest.

Yeah.

The same thing in marriage, if we overlook the small things, is the small offenses.

And you just kind of think that’s just how marriage is.

This is how always going to be.

Eventually your whole marriage will be sour and there’ll be a distance and there’ll be a wall built between you that you could have solved years earlier by just dealing with the small offenses sooner.

So true.

Yes, they really accumulate.

You start building up a case against your spouse, like why I should stay mad or why I should stay hurt or why I can’t forgive my spouse and so many others.

Why don’t.

Why I don’t feel loving towards my spouse because of this and this.

And it really becomes this whole long list of all these things that, like you said, have not been dealt with.

And it’s like that is more the identity of your marriage now than your friendship and the way you loved each other and how God put you together, what he’s called you to do.

It’s all these hurts now and disappointments and things you don’t agree on.

Most marriages are not destroyed overnight.

Is the little hurts.

It’s the little sarcastic comments.

Oh, yeah.

It’s the little disappointments.

It’s the little criticism.

Is the little neglect.

And they just accumulate.

You know how small a snowflake is.

Let enough snowflakes accumulate in your driveway or in your street and you’ll be very difficult to travel.

You can’t get.

You can’t move your car.

These little snowflakes just accumulate.

The same thing with marriage.

You’re going in a direction.

And if you let these little hurts accumulate, these little offenses accumulate, you’re going to find a hard to move in your marriage.

It’s going to be hard for you and your spouse to move together.

It’s going to be hard.

Principle number two, bitterness always grows when it’s left alone.

So true.

Chapter 12, verse 15 tells us in the new living translation, look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God.

Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.

You know how it is in your yard if you have a flower bed or if you have a lawn.

You know how if you let those weeds grow and that little root of bitterness takes root, takes hold, it gets harder and harder to get rid of it.

Yes.

Like you said with plants, the more you let that grow and remain there, it becomes a bigger and bigger root under the ground to have to pull up.

It gets really hard to get some things out if you don’t get them early, get them quick, get them rooted out and stop spoiling the garden or stop spoiling your beautiful lawn.

And it’s the same in your relationship.

And that Root of bitterness, like we’ve been talking about can develop from hurts, from unforgiveness, just sadness and feeling like there’s lack and there’s just too much hurt to get over any of those things.

It all can cause this root to be growing underneath the surface and.

And the more it remains, the harder it is to remove.

And it never remains small.

It grows and grows.

It’ll affect your communication.

Yes.

It’ll affect your friendship and it will affect your intimacy.

So if you’re looking at your marriage, you say, wow, our communication is just not what it should be.

Friendship, it just isn’t what it should be.

Our intimacy just isn’t what it should be.

That’s good.

Take an inventory.

Are there any roots of bitterness that you have allowed to grow up?

Not in the flower garden of your home.

I’m talking about your heart, the garden of your heart.

Let that root of bitterness grow up.

And maybe there’s a hurt that you never dealt with.

The root of bitterness and you just having a hard time communicating with your spouse.

Yes.

You’re having a hard time being intimate.

You’re having a hard time being friends.

Take stock of what’s in your heart.

That’s one of the reasons we wrote our new book.

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That’s right.

Talk about the hurts before they become walls.

Paul gave married couples great advice In Ephesians, chapter 4, 26, 27, he talks about do not let the sun go down on your wrath.

So what that really means you got to deal with your anger.

If there’s something going on, maybe your spouse did something and or didn’t do something and it disappointed you.

You’re disappointed and you’re hurt.

He did it again or she did it again.

It’s just a repeated pattern of disappointments and hurts and unspoken disappointments.

Unspoken hurts.

If you don’t deal with it, if you don’t forgive your spouse, it can really become a wall, can it, Teresa?

Like he said, you just start losing communication.

You lose the sweetness and the caring for one another in your marriage and tending to to each other’s needs.

And it’s coming from these things that are undealt with.

And anger is one thing you don’t want to carry with you till you go to bed at night, but it like, just said the hurts and the disappointments as well.

And if those remain, anger can really be the result.

You’ll find yourself being angry at your spouse and they’ll be like, what did I do?

But it’s really not what was happening at the moment.

It’s things that you’ve allowed to build up and not talked about, not said, Taking it to the Lord first and saying, lord, help me with this.

Help me forgive my spouse, but help me to talk to them about this and let them know this is hurting me or I’ve been disappointed and we don’t want this to continue in our marriage.

We really have to talk about these things.

And let’s talk about emotional honesty, ladies.

You’re dealing with a man, but if he asks you what’s up, don’t just say, I’m fine.

When it’s.

You’re not fine.

Exactly.

Emotionally honest with your spouse.

Now, it may be painful, and you have to walk through and learn how to be emotionally honest with each other in a way that is edifying to each other.

Not pointing fingers or blame or receiving combination.

This is a thing that you have to walk through together where you’re able to express a hurt or disappointment with your spouse in a way that will bring healing, not division.

That’s right.

That’s exactly what I was thinking.

This is what it takes for healing to take place.

The wounds have to be exposed.

If you want to say, you’ve got to bring it out in the open.

It can’t be secrets, and it can’t be, I’ll just bear with it.

I’ll just keep going on and hope it gets better.

These have to be brought out into the open.

And the two of you, if you don’t know how to handle it for each other, bring it to the Lord together and say, lord, our hearts are hurting.

Lord, we’re disappointed.

We’ve not understood each other.

We’ve had miscommunication.

Where do we start?

And he will show you.

He’ll give you a plan of action.

Might take you to a scripture or a chapter in the Bible or a passage in Proverbs and say, apply this.

Use this as your foundation to start from and start living differently.

Start treating one another differently based on the word of God, based on how the Holy Spirit is leading you.

He wants to heal your marriage.

He wants to get these things taken care of so they’re not building a wall.

They’re not hindering your life together.

This brings us to point number four.

Healthy Couples repair quickly.

Paul tells us In Ephesians, chapter 4, verse 31, 32 in the New Living translation.

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

Instead, be kind to each other, tender hearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

That is great advice.

You spend a lifetime learning how to do this.

Yes.

You got to replace that anger with kindness.

You got to replace that rage with tender heartedness that hurt.

You gotta give your spouse forgiveness.

That’s right, Teresa.

That’s right.

There’s so much freedom in this.

There’s so much healing in this.

But, but if you don’t know how to do that, if you didn’t have a good example of marriage in your family, like your parents or aunts and uncles or someone you knew, then let Jesus be your example.

He did not speak out of bitterness.

He didn’t speak out of rage.

He didn’t use harsh words.

He spoke with kindness towards people.

He spoke with gentleness and compassion.

And it takes a lot of think to the fruit of the Spirit.

It’s something you learn to develop.

So learn to develop it individually.

And even if you haven’t had to talk about hurts very much in your marriage, if you’re learning to operate in the fruits of the spirit, then it won’t be hard when these things are starting to show up or you realize, oh, we haven’t really been talking about things that are bothering us and we just, we’re so nice to each other.

We didn’t think it was a problem that sometimes that’s the case with Jeff and me.

We’re both quiet people and we don’t get talk angry at each other or call each other names.

It’s not that kind of thing to get through.

But we sometimes it’s the unsaid things that we have to talk about.

I haven’t been telling you how I appreciate you or how much I love you.

And we have to talk about some of these things so we can be kind to each other, we can express tender heartedness to each other.

But if that’s hard, then you’ll have to, like Jeff said, take stock at what’s in your hearts, what’s going on in your relationship that’s hindering these things from coming forth.

This is the challenge for you this week, and this is a master’s level challenge question.

This is not a simple question.

Look your spouse in the eye, grab their hands and ask them, what is one hurt we’ve never really talked about?

Wow.

And be gentle, be kind, remind each other that you love each other, that you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

But I was really hurt when this happened.

This is a great opportunity for healing.

It really is a great opportunity to bring Christ into the situation.

Pray for healing for each other, Ask forgiveness, give forgiveness, cast it out of your heart, never bring it up again.

And this is a time for healing to occur.

Teresa yes.

Because you have to remember the Lord is in the midst of your marriage when you come to him with these things and you do this in the Lord’s presence and say, lord, we’re bringing this to you.

Help us for this to be healed.

He is going to go to work.

He doesn’t take that lightly.

He’s.

Yes.

Finally, they’re giving me invitation to come into this situation.

The second segment, Teresa let’s just talk about how to forgive while you’re still hurting.

So forgiveness can be a process, but if you’re still hurting about something, it’s can be difficult to forgive while that hurt is still fresh.

Can it?

Can it?

Right?

Right.

And you know, the Lord has told me many times over the years, you know, I can’t be led or guided by my feelings.

The hurt is there, but.

But forgiveness and healing is also available.

So I need to express that I’m hurting to the Lord and to my spouse, and that is when the healing can begin.

How to forgive when you’re still hurting?

One of the most difficult moments in marriage is when you know forgiveness is needed, but the hurt is still fresh.

Maybe you’ve said, I want to forgive, I just don’t know how.

If that’s where you are today, we want you to know something.

God never asked us to ignore our pain, but he does invite us to bring that pain to him.

Because forgiveness isn’t pretending something didn’t happen.

No, forgiveness is the first step towards healing.

And today we’re going to discover four biblical truths that can help you forgive even when your heart is still hurting.

Healing often begins long before the pain is completely gone.

Let’s dive in.

Point number one, forgiveness is a choice.

Remember in Matthew chapter 18, where the disciples came to Jesus said, how often should I forgive my.

My neighbor?

Seven times.

And Jesus said, no, no, 70 times seven.

Which is boggling in the mind, right?

Because forgiveness is an act of obedience.

Choosing not to forgive is living in disobedience.

Remember Paul said In Ephesians, chapter 4, verse 32, he said, forgiving one another just as God, through Christ has forgiven you.

So just like God has forgiven us.

We need to forgive our spouse, don’t we?

Teresa?

Yes.

I remember learning that verse years and years ago when I first had an amplified Bible.

And it said that God forgave us readily and freely in Christ.

And when he would talk to me from that verse, he’s okay.

Now you need to forgive readily, which quickly and freely.

Now that I’ve forgiven, I let the offense go.

I let the person go, just like God did for me.

I can do no less than what God has done for me in Christ, because now we’re his sons and daughters.

We need to act just like our Father.

Point number two, forgiveness does not erase wisdom.

Paul told us In Romans, chapter 12, verse 18, do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.

But you also need to use wisdom.

If you’re in a situation where there’s a repeated pattern of violence or some abuse, whether it be a verbal abuse or physical abuse, we do not teach to stay in that type of situation.

You have to also have boundaries, clear boundaries where you and maybe even your children are safe.

Yes, so, so true.

You have to get to a place where you’re able to heal and just.

And also, even though someone may have asked for forgiveness and you forgave them, remember, trust has to be rebuilt.

There has to be evidence of that, and you have to see real signs that person has changed.

Theresa yes.

That’s so good.

We would highly recommend counseling for a situation like that.

Of course, like he said, if you’re in danger in any kind of way, get yourself and your children to a place that’s safe and get some help to know how to deal with what’s already been happening so you can be healed and deal with traumatic things.

That’s not an easy thing to go through alone.

If this is something along those lines, we really strong, strongly recommend professional help, professional help to get out of this situation and protection.

Yeah, so true.

Forgiveness does not erase wisdom.

One of the reasons that we wrote our new book, you’re not losing love, you’re losing time, is to help couples walk through forgiveness and walk through these situations where, yes, they’re dealing with hurts and how to express those hurts and how to ask for forgiveness and how to extend forgiveness.

It really gives you tools to use to help start repairing the relationship and learn new ways to treat one another, new ways to continue on a fresh start in your marriage.

Really, it’s so helpful.

And if you go to our website, inspiringmarriages.net resources, there’s a ton of free resources that you can download that will talk about a transparency pack.

It’s a seven day from lonely to best friends Again, devotional.

There’s conversation starters.

There’s 20 fun date ideas.

It goes on and on.

So many good ideas.

So there’s so many good resources that you can have for free at that website.

Point number three, Jesus is our example.

Like I said, Ephesians 4.

32, Paul said, told us, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another.

Just as God through Christ has forgiven you, we have to forgive as Christ forgave.

Jesus is our example.

Jesus is my example.

How to minister to my wife, how to love my wife.

Of course.

Ephesians chapter 5, verse Paul told the husbands, husbands love your wife, just as Christ loved the church giving him up for her.

And he told the wives, wives, honor your husband.

So we need to model those characteristics in our marriage.

Asking for forgiveness and extending forgiveness.

Yes.

And wives are supposed to honor their husbands the way that they honor and respect the Lord.

That’s a big need for a man, is respect and honor.

You don’t respect someone who’s being abusive.

Of course you respect a husband that’s being a good husband.

And a lot of times our encouragement and our offering forgiveness, offering kindness, all the things we’re talking about that helps a man to act honorably.

It really does.

As you walk these things out together, he’ll be even more and more respectable in your eyes because he’s growing in the Lord and you’re growing in the Lord and your relationship is being healed.

It’s just a win win.

Husbands loving their wives, loving their husbands, submitting to them and honoring them.

It’s the way God designed it and it will work when we get back to God’s Design.

Point number four.

Healing is often a process.

Psalms 147, verse three tells us that he heals the brokenhearted.

Talking about God heals the brokenhearted.

Now, there’s a lot of factors.

We’re talking about how many years you go back, but also another factor is how hard are you hanging on to that hurt?

Oh, yeah.

Are you willing to give up that hurt?

Are you willing to extend forgiveness?

And it’s a process, but it doesn’t have to take years.

No, you should see improvement every single day.

You don’t have to hang on to that hurt.

No, you can give it to the Lord.

Damaged by that hurt anymore.

You can receive your healing.

And healing, I say it’s a process, but it’s not a long process.

It can be.

It can happen very quickly.

I’ve heard A minister say, lord, I want to be willing.

So help me be willing to be willing.

Some people are at that place where they don’t.

They haven’t been willing to obey these things the way the Scripture teaches us to treat one another and to live in the Christian life.

Help me be willing to be willing.

If it takes that, Pray that as often as you need to help me be a forgiving person.

Help me be tender hearted, Lord.

Help me not to hold on to things that don’t belong to me.

They’re from the wrong identity.

Our identity needs to come from.

Christ needs to come from who he is in us.

He wants to express himself through you to your spouse.

The kindness, the tenderness, the forgiveness, the love, the concern, the, the, the appreciation of one another.

He wants to extend those things to your spouse through you.

So it takes your heart being healed and whole for him to do that and be the best that you can be for your spouse and your marriage.

This is the challenge for this week.

When you pray together, hold hands, remind each other you love each other, and just ask God to reveal any unforgiveness that you have in your heart now.

It’s not to dredge up something to cause damage, but it needs to be healed.

And just ask God to reveal if you have any confidence about anything in your heart towards your spouse that’s so good.

Healthy marriages aren’t those that never experience hurt.

They’re the ones that know how to heal.

Theresa in this next section, we’re going to talk about how is so important not to let yesterday steal tomorrow.

We can’t let the hurts of the past define the future of our marriage.

Oh, no, certainly can’t.

It’s really destructive to a marriage if you’re always looking back, you know, maybe reminding each other of things that went wrong.

You can’t move forward when you’re looking backward, and especially if you’re bringing up, constantly bringing up things that were not so good in the past.

We have to leave those in the past and we’re going to share scriptures with you that will really help you in this area so that you can turn your gaze forward and you can both look ahead to what God has for your marriage.

Don’t let yesterday steal tomorrow.

Can we ask you a question?

What chapter in your marriage are you living today?

Every marriage has difficult chapters.

Every couple experiences disappointment, hurt, and seasons they wish they could rewrite.

But here’s the encouraging truth.

One painful chapter doesn’t have to become the whole story.

Our God is a God of restoration.

He’s A God of healing.

He’s a God of new beginnings.

And with his help, your best days don’t have to stay behind you.

They can still be ahead of you.

Today we want to share four biblical principles with you that can help you stop letting yesterday define tomorrow and start building the marriage that God desires for you.

You may not be able to rewrite yesterday’s chapter, but with God’s help, you can begin choosing what you begin to write today.

Let’s dive in.

Principle number one, stop replaying yesterday.

Isaiah, chapter 43 tells us to forget the former things.

So just repeating those images over and over in your mind, stop replaying that tape over and over again.

Stop it.

Stop rehearsing it.

Stop going over your mind.

Stop letting it make you anger angrier and angrier.

Stop letting that root of bitterness take a hold in your heart.

That just drives out peace.

It drives out love, drives out tender heartedness.

It really makes your hard heart.

It really makes your heart hard.

So we’re not talking about denial.

Like, I’m not going to think about it.

I’m not going to think about it.

I’m not going to think about it.

You actually are thinking about it.

It has to be a healthy perspective.

So this really has to do with dealing with your thought life.

And there’s a whole lot of books been written about that.

There’s a lot of teaching about that.

But what is Jeff is saying not to rehearse the hurts, not to rehearse what’s happened in the past.

Some people like to keep that as ammunition to use when they’re in a situation.

They want to have something to fire away at their spouse.

Like I remember when you did this.

And it should have been something long forgiven and done and over with.

But we don’t need an arsenal to be using against our spouse.

What we’re doing is actually carrying around weights and baggage and things that are entangling us and hurting us and weighing us down.

There’s so much scripture about these things, but truly, you have to allow your mind to be full of things that are good and true and worthy of thinking on as a believer.

And they should be thinking on good things about your spouse.

Definitely not what happened in the past, because that’s done.

It needs to be in the past.

If you’ve already dealt with it completely, let it go.

You don’t need that anymore.

And we’ve all seen situations like this where though they may, there may have been in a family, there may have been something happened decades ago, but the feelings are still fresh Today, like they just happened yesterday and there’s a family feud or there’s hurts that go back for decades.

It really has taken a root in that family and it really is causing damage.

Stop rehearsing yesterday.

Rule number two, focus on God’s new work.

Second Corinthians, chapter five, verse 17 tells us, Therefore anyone is in Christ.

He is a new creation.

Old things have passed away.

Behold, all things have become new.

That’s in the new King James.

God is a specialist, but of making winners in life.

The founder of our church, Dr. Jerry Savelle, he always said that guy was a champion of making winners.

He would take somebody and make them better than new.

Just like someone take an old car, just make it even better than it was when it was brand new.

Yeah, just a restoration always made it better than it was before.

So God is an expert in doing that type of things.

So we need to focus on the new work.

So instead of focusing on yesterday’s pain, focusing on what happened yesterday, replaying, playing that in your mind, focus on what God is doing.

God is able to make a new creation, change all that.

God’s able to bring a fresh new perspective in this situation.

And we do so much better in life and in marriage when we’re looking forward instead of looking back.

It reminds me of what they used to teach you in driver’s head.

You can’t drive down the road by looking in the rearview mirror.

You’re going to get in a car wreck or something because you’re not looking at the road, you’re not looking at where you’re headed.

And God has things he wants to put out in front of us, good things, good plans for us.

And if we’re still looking backwards, if we’re casting our glance back there.

Jesus said, you’re not fit for the kingdom of God if you’re trying to put your hands to the plow and plow ahead, but you’re always looking back.

I’ve this happened and that happened.

He said, I can’t allow you to move forward.

You’re not ready to move forward is really what he’s saying.

Because you’ve got to focus on what’s ahead, what good things God has for you.

We talk a lot about this in our new book.

You’re not losing love, you’re losing time.

It’s about redeeming time in your marriage, about making the most of every opportunity.

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Principle number three Keep choosing each other.

Today I’m choosing my wife.

Today I’m choosing my husband.

I make a conscious effort to serve my spouse.

Paul tells us in Philippians Chapter three talks about forgetting those things that are behind and reaching forward to things that which are ahead oppressed towards the goal of the prize of the upper call of God in Christ Jesus.

God is always calling us to go forward.

He’s always calling us to come upward.

Yes.

So marriage is a continually choosing to go forward.

It’s not choosing to stay there and enjoying being hurt, enjoying telling people what your spouse did to you or didn’t do for you and just enjoying being being having a pity party.

But he’s calling you to go forward.

He’s calling you to go upward.

He’s calling your marriage to come upward.

I really love that concept.

He really is.

He wants your marriage to get better and better as the time goes by.

And that comes with, like we’ve said at the beginning here, choosing each other.

Choosing.

I want to put my spouse first today.

I want to do things for my spouse.

I want to be kind to my spouse.

I want to be loving to my spouse.

And Lord help me to treat them the way that they should be treated as a son or daughter of God.

Right?

He’s calling us forward, moving forward because there are things that he wants you to do together that will be a blessing to others.

And when your marriage is getting healed and restored, it’s amazing how he will bring you across the path of people who need the same thing that that you needed some months back or a few years back to know how to move forward in marriage and get these walls down and deal with these hurts.

It’ll be amazing just by being friends with someone, how you can encourage them, what God showed you and how you walked through that.

Principle number four Build new memories.

Ecclesiastes don’t let the painful memories become your only memories.

Make new memories.

Do something fun.

Spend some time with your spouse.

Pray together.

Read scriptures together.

Share scripture.

Have just times of coffee together or tea.

Go for a walk.

Go for a drive.

Do something fun together.

Watch a movie.

Stream a series.

Do something fun with your spouse.

Yes.

And you can create new memories by both trying something you’ve been close.

You can create new memories by doing something together that you maybe both have wanted to do but have never done.

Taking a painting class or a pottery class or studying archeology together, or going to history museums, doing things that are fun, but they’re also helping you to grow in your knowledge of each other and grow in something new that you can enjoy together.

That’s always a blessing.

Yes.

So take advantage of that.

The challenge for this video Plan something joyful this week.

Create one positive memory.

Maybe it’s cooking breakfast together.

Maybe it’s grilling hamburgers together.

Maybe it’s making a salad together.

Maybe it’s grilling hot dogs and having a picnic in the living room.

Maybe it’s going to the park and having chicken salad.

Whatever it is, that’s fun to you.

Create one positive memory.

Remember, healthy marriages aren’t those that never experience hurt.

They’re the ones that know how to heal.

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There there’s just a ton of resources that are free.

You can download any of them or all of them.

Just click on that link and enter email address.

You’ll get a link to that resource.

Take advantage of those great things.

We put a lot of work in them and I think they’re, they’re really outstanding.

So until next week, remember, God designed.

Husband and wife to be friends for life.