Forgiveness: The Secret Sauce for Happy Relationships!
Today, we're diving into the oh-so-crucial topic of forgiveness—because let's be real, holding onto grudges is like carrying around a bag of rocks. We're chatting about how forgiving quickly not only smooths out those bumpy relationships but also gives the devil a swift kick to the curb. You know how the Bible says in Ephesians that we should be kind and tender-hearted? Well, we’re breaking that down and exploring how it all ties into our spiritual growth. We’ll share some personal stories, sprinkle in a few laughs, and maybe even challenge you to forgive someone who’s been on your mind. So grab your favorite drink and let’s get into this heart-healing convo! Forgiveness, uh, it’s a biggie! You know, we dive deep into why letting go of grudges is crucial for our spiritual health. Holding onto anger? It’s like carrying a backpack full of rocks while trying to sprint. Not fun! We chat about how forgiving quickly can defuse tension and make relationships smoother. It's like magic—poof! That heavy weight just disappears! A little bible wisdom from Ephesians reminds us to be kind and tender-hearted. Because seriously, who doesn’t want to be called a child of God? It's not about being perfect, because let's be real, none of us are. But when we forgive, it's like opening a door to grace, and boy, do we need that!
Takeaways:
- Forgiveness is crucial and should be done quickly to avoid negativity and grudges.
- The Bible emphasizes kindness and forgiveness, reminding us of our own grace received from God.
- Communication in marriage should be respectful and honoring, avoiding words that bring down your partner.
- Regular expressions of gratitude strengthen relationships and create a more positive atmosphere at home.
- Transparency in marriage builds trust and allows for open discussions about challenges and fears.
- Having Christ as the foundation of your marriage is essential for a strong and lasting relationship.
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Transcript
Another thing we want to look at is forgiving.
Speaker A:You know, forgiving quickly and reconcile.
Speaker A:I know, I think we heard about.
Speaker B:It today also Pastor Justin.
Speaker A:Forgiving, it's so important and seeing that you diffuse things and reconcile immediately because it's one of the major instruments that the devil use.
Speaker A:It will just create that hole and start taking you down that hole.
Speaker A:That was the day you will find out that oh this lady was even ugly.
Speaker A:Oh, you don't even so I'm smelling something.
Speaker A:You never smelled that thing before.
Speaker A:But you start smelling that day because.
Speaker A:Because of maybe situation happened and you are not forgiving you holding the grudges in you, the devil be continue to create scenario of things that could, that could bring that person down.
Speaker A:Not exhausting.
Speaker A:So it's so important that when we have issue we should instantly try and, and, and forgive one another.
Speaker A:Like the Bible tell us in the book of Ephesians.
Speaker A:I believe Ephesians, chapter 4, verse 32.
Speaker A:And he said, said and be kind one to another, tender, tender hearted, forgiving one another even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you, has forgiven you forgiving me.
Speaker A:It's because of forgiveness that we are here today.
Speaker A:Yes, that we can even be called the sons and the daughter of God.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker A:It's not because of whatever any of us has done.
Speaker A:In fact, if God will have to look at what we've done, we'll be far away from Him.
Speaker A:It was like don't let me see you close to wherever I am.
Speaker A:But that is not the case because of his forgiveness and all that he has done to draw us back to Him.
Speaker A:So we ourselves too also need to demonstrate the same thing that when something happens, see that you forgive and let that thing go.
Speaker A:Because if you don't forgive, not only that you are injuring yourself from moving forward spiritually.
Speaker A:Because as a believer like somebody like myself, if I don't forgive, am I going to preach to one?
Speaker A:Am I going to pray for somebody?
Speaker A:Am I going to tell somebody about Christ?
Speaker A:And if I try to do that, you know how powerful the Holy Spirit will do is in doing that he will speak to you of what you have done on what you are trying to do to another person will speak to you that you know what you have in your heart.
Speaker A:Have you ever forgive one?
Speaker A:Have you ever tell us, sorry, do you know you are the one that caused it?
Speaker A:Not only that, it will play the scriptures to you.
Speaker B:That's true.
Speaker A:And those things will begin to move in your heart that you like say, yeah, you have to Take care of that.
Speaker A:You know, just like Christ told or said, if you have, if any of you have issue with one another, with your brother, he says it's more better for you to settle that thing if you've gone to the church.
Speaker A:He said that raise that offering, all that you want to bring that put down.
Speaker A:He said it's better go first and take care of that and then come back and then do what you want to do in the house of the Lord.
Speaker A:So it's very important that we forgive one another and reconcile pretty fast.
Speaker A:I always say, I said to my wife, because when we first married, for about 10 years, within five, we didn't have any quarry.
Speaker A:No, in fact, no complete it, get to a level.
Speaker A:I say.
Speaker A:He said, we have, we have an issue.
Speaker A:What is the issue?
Speaker A:Because we are not having conflict.
Speaker A:Because we can't just say, everything can just be smooth like that without we testing that area, you know.
Speaker A:So we thought we try to start creating, you know, you can imagine creating even something that will bring in conflict yourself, just to be able to see how we can do it, how we can deal with it.
Speaker A:Because you find out everything is just good with him.
Speaker A:Everything I do is good with that.
Speaker A:Everything he do is do good with me.
Speaker A:Are we, are we going to talk about conflict when we don't even have it?
Speaker A:You don't experience it.
Speaker A:So somehow we started trying to create something and then, you know, because just like the other speakers, talk about your children too, you want to teach them.
Speaker A:Because some things may not be smooth like that.
Speaker A:They want to be able to know that sometimes that.
Speaker A:And mom, they argue over certain things, but they saw it right there, you know, they saw it in love.
Speaker A:Like you say, isn't all these people that were talking to each other just now, now they're already holding each other.
Speaker A:They're giving you, bye, bye, darling.
Speaker A:You know, they're like, what happened?
Speaker A:I thought you guys are still calling.
Speaker A:I think one of our son asked one time said, I thought you and mom was still talking about it.
Speaker A:I said, yeah, yeah, we, we, we, we, we, we already take care of that, you know, so it's so important like that.
Speaker A:Another thing that we have to understand is the respect and honor in speech that will be able to respect our wife, our spouse, and honor them in our speech.
Speaker A:Not using the word that will bring them down, but words that will always show their respect and honor them even in the.
Speaker A:In front of other people.
Speaker A:I wanted to talk about an example of that.
Speaker A:Let's.
Speaker A:Maybe you can read Ephesians okay, according.
Speaker B:To respect and online speech, you will go to the book of Ephesians 5, 33 said, nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself and the wife see that she referenced her husband.
Speaker B:So in this the Lord is telling us that we should reference her husband.
Speaker B:Our husband also showed the love.
Speaker B:It's not to be saying, oh, you can't fix that.
Speaker B:Look at all that you're fixing.
Speaker B:You, you don't even know nothing.
Speaker B:You don't do this.
Speaker B:That's not good.
Speaker B:That is not the respect.
Speaker B:That is not the honor God said we should give to our spa.
Speaker B:I will call somebody to fix it.
Speaker B:You can't fix that.
Speaker B:Let just move away.
Speaker B:Let me go call somebody.
Speaker B:So that is not the right word to use, especially communicating to our husband in our marriage.
Speaker B:It's not even good for you to say to an outsider, not to talk about the person that God has put as the head of the household that we should honor.
Speaker B:We should use kind words.
Speaker A:Yeah, we know some other Bible translation we use in reference.
Speaker A:You use honor to honor your order speech.
Speaker A:I know, we've heard about that today.
Speaker A:Which is, which is.
Speaker A:I mean, which I would say that the demonstration of the love, just as the Bible say, even as the way that Christ has loved the church, you know that the w. The husband loving the wife will not make you to.
Speaker A:Even beneath your wife is saying things that are not right about things that, that.
Speaker A:That will really create a belief.
Speaker A:So even outside, it has to be out of love.
Speaker A:That's why when we look at it, we see that the Lord didn't say, the Bible didn't tell us that husband reference or honor the wife and the wife love the husband.
Speaker A:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker A:Because the love part of it is more powerful.
Speaker A:It's more powerful than even the honor and the ref.
Speaker A:I mean the honor part of it.
Speaker A:Because the, the wife, as the Bible makes us to know that is a weaker vessel.
Speaker A:So God puts the body on the stronger vessel, which is man to love.
Speaker A:Because to love, you won't be able to hate that person, be able to even say.
Speaker A:Say anything bad about that person.
Speaker A:You will be able to.
Speaker A:To believe that, belittle that person because of the love you have.
Speaker A:So love is more stronger.
Speaker A:And when we demonstrate that love, it's become a different thing.
Speaker A:I mean, it shows, it shows strength, it strengthen the relationship, it strengthen the, the family, the union very well.
Speaker A:And like the example she just gave us now that you don't say like you're useless at fixing things.
Speaker A:You know, there's a way we can demonstrate that one and say, oh, I know you can do it better.
Speaker A:I know if I'm just going to call somebody outside to fix it, they can't do it the way you're going to be doing.
Speaker A:You're going to do more better than this.
Speaker A:It's like me wasting money if I have to call somebody to do it.
Speaker A:Even though you know that your husband or your spouse is not able to do it, but you still present it that way.
Speaker A:So it's very important.
Speaker A:And another thing that we have to understand, I mean, to be able to use as a communications word for each other will be a kind of daily gratitude.
Speaker A:You know, expressing gratitude.
Speaker A:Thank you, thank you, love.
Speaker A:Thank you, sweetheart, thank you for doing this.
Speaker A:You know that in everything we do be able to.
Speaker A:To express that.
Speaker A:And when we express that, it's just as the word of God has even told us, that we should give thanks in all things.
Speaker A:You know, when we, when we do that with our spouse, we.
Speaker A:We encourage them.
Speaker A:We increase and strengthen the intimacy that we have with one another.
Speaker A:And then we also fuel the joy that we have.
Speaker A:The joy of God, of.
Speaker A:Of the Lord that is in us.
Speaker A:We fuel it by expressing gratitude.
Speaker A:And another thing is avoiding nagging and calling, which I believe Pastor Johnson talk about it.
Speaker A:But I can sort of like.
Speaker A:And look at a way to.
Speaker A:I mean, a little advice you can out there.
Speaker A:For younger spouse or wives.
Speaker A:I would say.
Speaker A:I would say we should just.
Speaker A:Wives or young couple should avoid the repeating of the same complaint.
Speaker A:Like the same thing to avoid repeating the same complaint.
Speaker A:The same complaint.
Speaker A:The same complaint every time.
Speaker A:And also even the husband to avoid being defensive.
Speaker A:You know, if we always are being defensive, we are not helping out.
Speaker A:We can see that that's one of the things that Adam did in the beginning.
Speaker A:If Adam has said, lord, I'm responsible, I'm sorry you say I should not do this and I ate it.
Speaker A:The fruits that he ate in the garden instead of him to do.
Speaker A:To say that it was defensive.
Speaker A:It wasn't me, it was the woman you gave to me.
Speaker A:I wasn't responsible.
Speaker A:See, taking responsibility will be helpful to de.
Speaker A:Escalate things and also to.
Speaker A:To help the marriage.
Speaker A:We also talk about the speaking to talk about.
Speaker A:I mean, speaking the world that build.
Speaker A:That's right, the world that build and not destroy the world that build the family, that build more of the relationship, that bring more of the.
Speaker A:Of the.
Speaker A:The love that you have for one another.
Speaker A:As the Bible said in Ephesians, chapter 4, verse 29.
Speaker A:He said, Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth.
Speaker A:Both that you that which is good to the use of edifying that it may minister grace unto the earth.
Speaker A:So we need a word that minister grace to each one of us.
Speaker A:So our world will always be a word that build this family, your family, your relationship.
Speaker A:So communication should be around that.
Speaker A:What you are putting in, is it to build the family, is it to build relationship?
Speaker A:Because if you go the route of not building it, then you're going to be destroying it.
Speaker A:And the devil will quickly help you to do that because he's always waiting.
Speaker A:Amen.
Speaker A:And I have two more points and one of them be to be trans.
Speaker A:Transparent.
Speaker A:Transparency is very important.
Speaker A:You know, I can say transparency to become the part of what I said that when you pray, you're able to be more transparent.
Speaker A:When you pray daily, you're able to be more transparent and transparent.
Speaker A:Help.
Speaker A:It makes one to love and, and believe in one and trust in one.
Speaker A:Yeah, it increase that strengthen the trust in the.
Speaker A:In the.
Speaker A:In.
Speaker A:In the relationship with one another.
Speaker B:Because you are open.
Speaker B:You are openness to whatever you are discussing.
Speaker B:You trust each other.
Speaker B:You are open to come before your spouse and let them know your concerns, your fears, what is going on either in the marriage.
Speaker B:Maybe there is something that is going to be happening to your finance or things like that.
Speaker B:You want to have a discussion on that either in the marriage.
Speaker B:Maybe they're struggling, they've not had children yet.
Speaker B:You have to lay your concern, your friend.
Speaker B:You want to be open so that you can discuss it, you can pray about it.
Speaker B:It's not that this one is putting it in their heart, the other doesn't know about it.
Speaker B:So all this is very, very important in the marriage, even in people that are also looking forward to get married.
Speaker B:You want to be open in that relationship.
Speaker B:You want to discuss things.
Speaker B:How's your life?
Speaker B:How's your life been?
Speaker B:Your family, your education, you want to build up even in your courtship, you want to pray about stuff.
Speaker B:He wants to come with you.
Speaker B:You don't want to be afraid to and said, I'm going through these challenges, I'm going through this.
Speaker B:You know, my work is very, very tiring these days.
Speaker B:They're giving us a lot to do.
Speaker B:So he can know where to help you, can know where to assist you.
Speaker B:He can do way to encourage you.
Speaker B:So it's very, very, very important in our marriage, especially as believers, also even, even people that are not even believers.
Speaker A:And we see from what she said is even the transparency is not only being transparent, but transparent, being vulnerable too vulnerable in the sense that things that you know is your weakness, this things that someone can use against you.
Speaker A:You know, you still be able to be open in God with your spouse because now you become one.
Speaker A:I mean you, you are now one.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Two of you have become one.
Speaker A:It's not that you are hiding that part.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Because you see that it's your, is your vulnerability.
Speaker A:Vulnerability and your weakness.
Speaker A:You know, as the Bible tells us.
Speaker A:He said James chapter 5, verse 16.
Speaker B:James chapter 5, verse 16 said, Confess your fault one to another and pray one for another that ye may be healed.
Speaker B:The effect, the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
Speaker B:Just like you said here.
Speaker B:He said we should confess it to each other.
Speaker B:We should pray about it, we should talk about it.
Speaker B:Our faults, our fears, our opinions, things going on and pray about it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And being, confessing it out or saying it, bringing it together help you.
Speaker A:That's when the healing comes.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Because if you're still keeping, you're not ready for the healing.
Speaker A:The moment you spread it out, you find out that the healing starts and then God take charge of the rest.
Speaker A:And finally I, I also have to talk about this, which is the, I would say the real, the real foundation of everything we're talking about that one cannot take, I mean take away from it, but will be the center of it all, is to have Christ in the center.
Speaker A:That means Christ keeping Christ as the center of your marriage.
Speaker A:Because if Christ is not in the center of all we're talking about, then we are in trouble.
Speaker A:No matter how you think you'll be good and showing love and trying to pray in doing, wanting or the other that we've talked about, if Christ is not in the center of it, if Christ is not the foundation of it, the then you're in trouble.
Speaker A:Because the foundation has to be laid first before any other thing can come on top.
Speaker A:And the foundation has to be cracked.
Speaker A:And if Christ is the foundation, then it become the center of it.
Speaker A:Know there are people also that will say, oh, I'm maring to this person.
Speaker A:I mean, they get married to somebody because of maybe this, because of time or because of finances or because of one thing or the other that is not rooted in the real love that they have for that person, but because of other things, they get into that relationship and the relationship end up becoming okay, maybe you are in Christ, the person is not in Christ, or the person is in Christ, but his leg is outside.
Speaker A:One leg is inside, the other leg is outside.
Speaker A:That means the person is not in Christ.
Speaker A:And then you believe in the oh, because I'm in Christ, I'm going to bring that person into Christ.
Speaker A:That foundation is not because you know from the start then the foundation you have not laid.
Speaker A:Right?
Speaker A:There's a difference between, oh, you didn't, you, you got married.
Speaker A:I mean, you, you got into that before.
Speaker A:Both of you now become somebody knowing Christ, of course, bring it together.
Speaker A:So the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the intent, it's always important if the intent is that no matter what God says, no matter what the church say, no matter what the people say, I'm going to go for this because it's what I want.
Speaker A:Because you're seeing something there that is not Christ, but something that you want to fulfill in your heart on your own, the flesh that you want to fulfill because of it going to that relationship.
Speaker A:Then if that's the case, you'll be ready to face the consequences.
Speaker A:Because then Christ is not the foundation.
Speaker A:Because then you now start to build a foundation that is in Christ.
Speaker A:In most cases it's not pretty easy.
Speaker A:So it's more better to start with a foundation that Christ, I mean to start with foundation that's built on Christ than not having Christ.
Speaker A:So Christ being the center of the marriage is very important.
Speaker A:And if it's not there, like I said, you all have to because some people find themselves in that situation.
Speaker A:You have to invite Christ into it and submit unto him to be the center of the whole relationship.
Speaker A:Once it's the center, every other thing goes smooth.
Speaker A:Your communication become better if you present in a way that is not understandable.
Speaker A:Christ will take care of the rest.
Speaker A:The Holy Spirit will break it down for that person to get it right.
Speaker A:So that part is so important for us to be able to do.
Speaker A:And the Bible tells us in and I would say In Colossians, chapter three, verse 17, he said, he said, and whatsoever ye do in world, and indeed do all in the name of, of the Lord Jesus giving thanks to God our Father by him, our Father by him, that is by Christ.
Speaker A:That means everything has to be for Christ and Christ in it.
Speaker A:And, and also First Corinthians.
Speaker B:I like that one a lot.
Speaker A:First Corinthians, chapter 1, verse, chapter 3, verse 11 tells us said for other foundation can no man lay than that which is Jesus Christ.
Speaker A:And finally I'll say as the Bible also said, looking unto Jesus in Hebrew, chapter 12, 2 said looking unto Jesus.
Speaker B:And the finisher of Our faith as a union.
Speaker A:We need to continue to look up to Jesus.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:As the author, the finishers of our faith.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And help us in our relationship and in our convocation to strengthen our intimacy, to strengthen our love with one another and like.
Speaker A:Also to strengthen our faith with God and with one another.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker B:Hallelujah.
Speaker A:Hallelujah.
Speaker C:Amen.
Speaker C:Amen.
Speaker C:Wow.
Speaker C:I think I really.
Speaker C:The part about coming together every day.
Speaker C:And so do you also have a time of worship?
Speaker A:Oh, you mean for us.
Speaker C:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker C:Wow.
Speaker C:So every day yours and we know your son's son.
Speaker C:We know your son since they were.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:High school.
Speaker C:Samson and David.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker C:And.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:No, no, no.
Speaker B:They're no more in high school.
Speaker B:They are big.
Speaker C:Yeah.
Speaker A:No, they've gotten.
Speaker C:Yeah, they've gotten advanced degrees now.
Speaker C:But I believe that even when he was at Duke, that he knew at that certain time of day that the family was supposed to pray.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker C:I believe that because I know our.
Speaker A:Children, even our pets, even the dog.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Knows that we have to.
Speaker A:And you don't start in time.
Speaker A:They start coming around and draw you that.
Speaker A:What's happening?
Speaker A:Are you guys not coming for.
Speaker A:To meet, to pray?
Speaker B:And even sometimes when we travel, if we travel, we are on our own or their own.
Speaker B:We know that time is that time.
Speaker B:Anything we're doing at that time, we might experience ourselves.
Speaker B:We were in Cancun not to that two weeks ago.
Speaker B:We can excuse ourselves wherever we are, just to hold hands and pray, then come back and join you.
Speaker B:So if you invite us to your house at that particular time, if we're still with you, if you notice we are shoveling and shoveling.
Speaker B:No, that is about the time.
Speaker B:That is our prayer time.
Speaker B:We might not have like a big devotion, but there will be a time that we will just step back and hold hands and say what, a prayer or two.
Speaker B:Then we can still.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker C:I think that is so outstanding that.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Up to.
Speaker B:Up to do not see Jesus come.
Speaker A:Another thing is that it's not.
Speaker A:Mostly it's not.
Speaker A:It's not five minutes, though.
Speaker A:Somebody used to run into 30 minutes.
Speaker B:It depends on what we're praying concerning.
Speaker B:It depends what the family has placed before the Lord.
Speaker B:It depends on what somebody is saying at that time that want to be praying for.
Speaker B:Even sometimes our kids will come and during prayer time for us to pray for their friend.
Speaker B:Put it in there.
Speaker B:Other people say, yeah.
Speaker A:And even you.
Speaker A:Both of you.
Speaker A:We always mention in our prayers all our partners.
Speaker C:Wow.
Speaker A:I believe your dog worship.
Speaker C:Your dog knew It's Time for prayer.
Speaker C:Wow.
Speaker A:Every day like that.
Speaker B:Mostly at night because in the morning everybody's dark.
Speaker B:Six o'.
Speaker A:Clock.
Speaker B:But most.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Use the morning.
Speaker B:You do your own quiet time.
Speaker B:But at night, by God's grace, till the last pump, Jesus takes us.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker A:There's a time our children, you know this high school where they also used to say they sleep over.
Speaker A:You remember one of them, because of a prayer time, he couldn't sleep.
Speaker A:He has to come back.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:They had to sleep.
Speaker B:Something they are doing in high school.
Speaker A:You know high school kid, when they go to.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Like in the band or something, they are doing sleep.
Speaker B:They said, why are you leaving?
Speaker B:They said, yeah, we gotta go.
Speaker B:We gotta do prayer time.
Speaker B:My parents, there might be excuse like five or three minutes, but they know.
Speaker A:And the parents.
Speaker A:The parents of their children say, oh, we can have them stay.
Speaker A:I said, I'm sorry.
Speaker B:To here.
Speaker A:It's our principle is this.
Speaker A:Is that, well, we value your.
Speaker A:Your stuff.
Speaker A:Is that okay?
Speaker A:They give each other organ.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:We went to pick them up.
Speaker A:Sorry, we gotta go.
Speaker B:They weren't happy, but we picked them up before then.
Speaker B:We had to come home.
Speaker B:We gotta go.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker C:Wow.
Speaker C:That is opportunity for God to move in your family.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Is it time I always look forward to, especially our prayer time.
Speaker B:I have a quiet timer, but it's always a timer.
Speaker B:If I'm not there, like something, I go to work or something.
Speaker B:I always excuse myself and be sorry.
Speaker B:My body is always.
Speaker A:And not only with our children.
Speaker A:When visitors come stay with us.
Speaker B:If you come staying at the house overnight, you have to be at the prayer.
Speaker A:One of our.
Speaker A:One of our guests one time, he got baptized in the Holy Ghost.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker B:They came from Nigeria.
Speaker B:They come to stay with us.
Speaker B:He got baptized in the Holy Spirit.
Speaker A:He just came to my office.
Speaker A:Oh.
Speaker A:It's all we have to call.
Speaker A:As the person come like this.
Speaker A:He just.
Speaker A:Boom.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Start speaking.
Speaker A:He just baptized in the Holy Ghost straight.
Speaker C:We.
Speaker A:We haven't even start prayer time then.
Speaker A:We're about to start.
Speaker A:She came to call us for prayer.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:So God has always moving in the.
Speaker A:In the means of that time.
Speaker A:Things that we not even expect.
Speaker B:Sometimes they will just speak to us concerning.
Speaker B:He will just lay it in the hands of the Lord.
Speaker B:If we have a guest.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Guests have been in this house.
Speaker B:You know us internationally.
Speaker B:They stay.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:On the call.
Speaker B:I guess we have to.
Speaker B:We live.
Speaker B:That is even the most important one.
Speaker B:I love that when we have our international guest, it's like another fellowship before the fellowship because everybody's just right here.
Speaker B:Praise and worship non stop.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Praise God.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:It's always, it's always, it's always.
Speaker B:We always encourage people, we encourage the young people to incorporate it into their home, to incorporate into their family.
Speaker B:It might not be our time.
Speaker B:We.
Speaker B:Once you put that time into the hands of the Lord, the Lord will make a way.
Speaker B:Just like I said, our kids were in high school, they were playing band or something.
Speaker B:And they know within themselves they live differently in their own respective places.
Speaker B:But within themselves, they know this is the time that we set before the Lord.
Speaker B:They can always, like, sometimes step back, they say a little prayer for themselves or for family, they go about their business.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:So, you know, individual family can always know what time is good for them.
Speaker A:Just a time to be more united.
Speaker A:You know, once that time is set, maybe, and it may be.
Speaker A:There may be a goal post moving sometimes, you know, maybe move one hour later, then, you know, in as long as consistent in that particular time, you know, it's, it's, it's more.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Sometimes our, our time move, you know, but now that the kids have.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Move away.
Speaker B:Okay, I'm on my way.
Speaker B:Things.
Speaker B:But it's the same time we know in our, our brain is calling, we gotta go.
Speaker B:Yeah, that's true.
Speaker C:Wow.
Speaker C:That is.
Speaker C:Yeah.
Speaker C:There were so many nuggets in that, in that teaching.
Speaker C:So many.
Speaker B:Thank you.
Speaker C:Thank you so much.
Speaker C:Thank you.
Speaker B:Look, thank you, Lord.
Speaker B:I am so blessed.
Speaker B:I'm so honored.
Speaker B:When I hear you guys are going to do this, I was like, oh, thank you, Jesus.
Speaker B:It's a.
Speaker B:Is a thing that needs to be heard, is a word of God that needs to be shared.
Speaker B:And as well as Pastor Justin has said it earlier, and we are saying that you are gonna pray, lives are going to be touched, marriage are going to be blessed, testimonies are going to comfort in the name of Jesus.
Speaker A:Yes, there's a great potential in need, but that many believers don't know there's a great.
Speaker A:Because things happen outside.
Speaker A:But if the family is not built, how do you expect outside?
Speaker A:If you're expecting outside to build a family, they're in trouble.
Speaker A:If you're leaving your children, your family as a whole to just go outside and learn, you're in trouble.
Speaker A:You're supposed to inculcate those things so that when they see it, when they grow with it, they cannot, you know, when the outside world is telling them different things, you know, what they have in them will be able to resist it.
Speaker A:You know, on, like, you just maybe like, I'VE seen many people, I mean relationship that when they cancel them, you know, they will tell you, oh, Pastor, what's the best way you think we can, we can move forward in this thing, in this situation?
Speaker A:I just tell them, no one, no need to start telling your husband, yeah, you're good in this area.
Speaker A:Just tell him, encourage him to start a prayer talk.
Speaker A:You find out that what your husband is saying, doing, you know, you will not know when he start talking about in the prayer time and then you can believe him better, you know, or what your wife is saying that you are not believing.
Speaker A:You begin to believe it, believer right away because you'll be able to pray over it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And then you see answer to the prayer that encourage the children to say, ah, yeah, yeah, this didn't happen in church, it happened at home.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:You know, this is not in the church, it's happened at home.
Speaker A:You know, it's strengthening their faith like that, you know.
Speaker A:So that's what I think that's very important because sometimes you may not have the chance to be able to be at church or you may not have a chance to fellowship with one and other people.
Speaker A:But if you're able to do it even without post family that God created for you.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Then the strength and the bond is, is, is, is unbreakable.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Just like Pastor Justin said.
Speaker B:Also he was saying that the ministry that God gave to him, that's the wife, your home, your family, that's your first minute, that's your first ministry.
Speaker B:Even your kids, you raise them, they all go their ways, they're all married.
Speaker B:But two of you are here.
Speaker B:This is your ministry.
Speaker B:And your kids that you raise, they are following that.
Speaker B:So an altar in the house is very, very important.
Speaker B:I'm not saying you should create an altar, but a place of fellowship.
Speaker B:Come together one another.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:It's very, very important because we're ready here.
Speaker B:Christ is the foundation.
Speaker B:This is the one, the work of it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker C:Wow, that is tremendous.
Speaker B:Glory be to God.
Speaker A:Does there any questions?
Speaker C:Yeah.
Speaker C:Do anybody have any questions they would like to ask?
Speaker C:Okay.
Speaker C:Okay.
Speaker C:Wow, that was tremendous.
Speaker C:So, wow.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:That was just wow.
Speaker C:To go back and listen to that again.
Speaker C:Look at my notes.
Speaker C:It was great.
Speaker B:I know we can always learn something.
Speaker C:So we're going to take a 10 minute break.
Speaker C:About four.
Speaker C:Let's do four.
Speaker C:45.
Speaker C:Okay.
Speaker C:We're going to put up a question for you to discuss with your spouse and during the break and it's going to be something you can discuss with your Spouse.
Speaker C:And we'll.
Speaker C:We'll put that up.
Speaker C:So we'll do.
Speaker C:We'll take a break till.
Speaker B:I'm sorry, did you have a question, Debbie?
Speaker B:I thought your hand was up.
Speaker B:No, I don't.
Speaker B:You have any questions on it?
Speaker C:All right, so I know Pastor Wells, Sister Rita, they were in Nigeria, Croatia, United States, Texas.
Speaker C:So when he was a little boy in Nigeria, he would play Bonanza.
Speaker C:They would play like they were Little Joe and Hoss.
Speaker C:And so Pastor Wells, we gotta take.
Speaker C:Get you to one of those old.
Speaker C:Those old time picture places where you dress up as a gunslinger because you're a Texan now.
Speaker C:And get your picture of you in a cowboy outfit.
Speaker A:That would be great.
Speaker A:I don't know if I've told you that.
Speaker A:That when I was a little boy, I used to watch the Bonanza movie.
Speaker A:And we'll be doing.
Speaker A:We'll be doing like Texans put our gun, you know, and then we'll be shooting each other.
Speaker B:They'll be using the fake hand as guns.
Speaker A:In London, if you remember, we used to jump on the.
Speaker A:On the sand that they're trying to use to build the houses in our neighborhood.
Speaker A:We'll be dodging on the sun, you.
Speaker B:Know, himself and Pastor Coyote.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And some other boys like that in our neighborhood, you know, trying to be like a Texans.
Speaker A:I never know I'm gonna be in Texas.
Speaker B:Yep.
Speaker A:And somehow we do all those things and then we end up in Texas.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I told him he has to.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:It's always great.
Speaker C:We gotta get you one of those places where you dress up in old clothes.
Speaker C:He's a cowboy.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:He's ready.
Speaker B:He wants to be a cowboy so badly.
Speaker A:I know, I know.
Speaker A:Fort Worth, Fourth World has a lot of that.
Speaker B:When we went to Cancun, he wanted to buy the boots, which was going to be so heavy, to bring it when we're coming.
Speaker B:Yeah, the cowboy boots.
Speaker B:We wanted to get it from Mexico, went to Canc.
Speaker B:And they have the hat and everything.
Speaker B:But it's going to be another extra luggage.
Speaker B:I said, no, no, no, we can get it in Dallas.
Speaker B:Leave it alone.
Speaker B:Okay, so good.
