Proverbs and Relationships: The Sweetest Words Win!
Today, we're diving into the nitty-gritty of communication in relationships, because let’s face it—sometimes we just don’t listen. We're chatting about how jumping to conclusions without hearing the whole story can really mess things up. We’ll sprinkle in some wisdom from Proverbs about using gentle words instead of harsh ones, because who wants to escalate a situation when you can chill it out? Plus, we’ll explore the power of prayer in bringing couples closer together—because nothing says “I love you” like talking to the Big Guy upstairs together. So grab your favorite snack, kick back, and let’s get into how to keep the love alive with a little kindness and a dash of humor! Let's dive into the nitty-gritty of communication and relationships! Today, we’re chatting about the importance of using gentle words and kind speech to build strong connections. You know how sometimes we just blurt out what’s on our minds without hearing the whole story? Yeah, we’ve all been there! We drop a comment, and bam, it turns into a mini-drama. One of the Proverbs we discussed hits the nail on the head: don’t jump to conclusions before you’ve heard the full story. It’s like trying to drive a car without checking the fuel gauge first—just a recipe for disaster! So, how do we avoid these relationship potholes? By choosing our words wisely! The conversation flows into how gentle speech can de-escalate conflicts and create a loving atmosphere at home. We share some personal anecdotes about times when a soft word saved the day. Plus, we explore how our body language can either support or sabotage our communication. Spoiler alert: rolling your eyes during a conversation? Not a power move, my friends! And if you think communication is just about words, think again! We also talk about the role of prayer in relationships. Yep, that’s right—a good ol’ family prayer can work wonders! It’s all about coming together, affirming each other, and lifting those spirits. We wrap things up by encouraging everyone to sprinkle a little sweetness in their words, because who doesn’t like a bit of honey in their tea? Sweeten up those conversations, people!
Takeaways:
- Communication is key in relationships, and using gentle words can really help avoid conflicts.
- Before jumping to conclusions, it’s important to hear the whole story first.
- Prayer can strengthen relationships and help resolve conflicts in a sincere way.
- Encouraging and affirming words in marriage can boost confidence and improve intimacy.
Transcript
And if we also look at.
Speaker A:If you also look at the.
Speaker A:What Proverbs said to look at.
Speaker A:Proverb.
Speaker A:Proverb I've been.
Speaker A:Proverb 18, verse 13.
Speaker A:We also tell her he said either answered in matter before he heard it.
Speaker A:Said he it is fully.
Speaker A:It is fully.
Speaker A:And shame unto him.
Speaker A:Because you didn't get the ot, your answer will not be correct.
Speaker B:You didn't get the full story.
Speaker A:You didn't get a full story.
Speaker A:You just jump into it.
Speaker A:You just answer before hearing the old thing.
Speaker A:That would be.
Speaker A:I mean that would be an in hindrance to progress to moving forward or even be able to.
Speaker A:To have a good relationship.
Speaker A:So another thing I will talk about is, is being able to use.
Speaker A:Use gentle words to avoid and always avoid harsh speech.
Speaker A:You know, I mean still more of a lovely world world that will exhort one world that will encourage one world that will make somebody feel important, not just what to bring them down, you know, and also that also create a way to.
Speaker A:To de escalate things, you know, in a way when things are being just being maybe in the, in the times of conflicts, you know.
Speaker A:You know, I know we talk about the other man of God already talk about conflict, but nevertheless there are times when each Edward comes all those things comes that one have to use a gentle word.
Speaker A:Because the use of gentle word would definitely de escalate things.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:And we, we also know that the same proverb also still tells us you have Proverb 15 on the.
Speaker A:If you can read or I'll just look at.
Speaker A:You know.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Proverb.
Speaker B:Pleasant words as honeycomb.
Speaker B:Sweets to the soul and helps to the bones.
Speaker B:So like you said, pleasant words we have to like become even.
Speaker B:Even when we're talking to each other, even when in a communication with our spouse in a relationship, we have to speak and pause so that we can understand what each other is saying.
Speaker B:There's no shouting over each other.
Speaker B:Even when there's a time that there has to be a shouting over each other and you have to step away.
Speaker B:When you step away, you regroup, then you come back to the discussion because just like Proverb said, he said he's.
Speaker B:It's like what he says.
Speaker B:It's like a sweet to the soul.
Speaker B:It's a honeycomb.
Speaker B:It's a honey.
Speaker B:Honey.
Speaker B:Honey is sweet.
Speaker B:Whatever you put honey into honey food, any drink is sweet.
Speaker B:So he said our words should be sweet, should be calming in anything we do.
Speaker B:Even in our marriages, especially to our spouse, even our children, even in the place of work, you cannot have your colleagues at work and you're speaking and you're shouting over each other.
Speaker B:That's not going to be a good relationship with that person at work.
Speaker B:Even if there is an argument, you stick yourself away.
Speaker B:Especially when you know you're a godly person.
Speaker B:Take yourself away from that area, let them pause.
Speaker B:Then you can come back, you can call the person again, come back and speak coming word.
Speaker B:Maybe they are getting you wrong enough in a different way.
Speaker B:And again, in a communication, you know, communication is only.
Speaker B:Is not only by speaking our body language, also speaks it.
Speaker B:Because you are saying something at your body language and the person is reading your body language in a different way.
Speaker B:They must like, oh, I was talking to her.
Speaker B:She was doing this, rolling her eyes and doing all this.
Speaker B:They're taking it in another way.
Speaker B:So all those things matters also.
Speaker B:And it has to also in a marriage.
Speaker B:Maybe my spouse is talking to me and I'm like, oh, okay, I'm chewing gum, I'm rolling my eyes.
Speaker B:He's been disrespected.
Speaker B:He's not honored.
Speaker B:Or your husband.
Speaker B:You want to talk to your husband over there just on his ipod and doing his thing.
Speaker B:You'll be like, honey, what are you doing?
Speaker B:We have to have this.
Speaker B:So that's not showing the love and that's been disrespected within each other in a marriage or in a relationship, even with our kids and stuff like that.
Speaker B:We know, we teach our kids, don't roll your eyes on me and stuff.
Speaker B:That is all part of bringing up in a home.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:And if we have to look at what efficient.
Speaker A:I mean, Colossian also said something which will be true for said I'm a kind of King James person.
Speaker A:So I always like to read James Version said, let your speech be always with grace seasoned with salt that ye that ye may know how you ought to answer every man.
Speaker B:Amen.
Speaker A:Let your speech be in grace, in grace and season.
Speaker A:That means saying the right thing.
Speaker A:Just like we have heard also earlier say the right thing at that right time, not just bringing the world that will make everything crumble or the right one.
Speaker A:And especially when we are believers, the right word will come because the Holy Spirit in us will always give us the right word.
Speaker A:You know, the Bible make us to know that when we open our mouth, God will feel it.
Speaker A:The spirit of God will fill us with what we what which good, which we what we glorify God what we exalt God what what what we say good about God to people.
Speaker A:Because everyone, especially people that are more, I mean people that are believers in Christ.
Speaker A:You become like a goldfish.
Speaker A:Everybody's looking at you because they're looking for.
Speaker A:You know, the devil is using them to look for that spot, that mistake, that thing you do wrong to say, oh, you see.
Speaker A:And he called himself a man of God.
Speaker A:Oh, he said he called himself a believer.
Speaker A:Oh, is this.
Speaker A:You see?
Speaker A:And those are the things that the enemy and the devil and the verse is looking for.
Speaker A:And we know it's always when he able to find his way into the marriage that will be a problem.
Speaker A:He may find his way through communication.
Speaker B:True.
Speaker A:Little things like that can create a crack.
Speaker A:And that crack can go up.
Speaker B:Yes, see.
Speaker A:So another thing.
Speaker A:Let me quickly give you an example.
Speaker A:There's a one time, it was a story of.
Speaker A:Of two people, a couple, husband and wife, that the old marriage crumbled totally into the divorce because of little things.
Speaker A:Little things.
Speaker A:You didn't clean the bathroom.
Speaker A:That one got it wrong.
Speaker A:Oh, I was just there.
Speaker A:I plan it.
Speaker A:You didn't clean it.
Speaker A:I say I clean it.
Speaker A:You say, I mean, you didn't clean it.
Speaker A:That was the whole point.
Speaker A:I tell you at the end of it, it was a divorce letter.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Because totally that begins to open up wounds.
Speaker B:Things that have been inside, things that have been bo.
Speaker B:Enough, Things that they've not talked about, things they've not settled, Things that have been going on in the marriage.
Speaker B:Because it's simple, like, oh, why didn't you wipe down the sink or something now then you begin to being your stuff.
Speaker B:This one begin to talk now.
Speaker B:Yeah, yeah, yeah, I need this.
Speaker A:So that's how, you know, saying that.
Speaker A:Oh, that's how you brought up.
Speaker A:Maybe your parents improved.
Speaker A:They didn't.
Speaker A:They didn't wipe me.
Speaker A:Oh, my parents.
Speaker A:Why do you bring my parents into this?
Speaker A:You know.
Speaker A:Oh, you touch the points.
Speaker A:I don't want nobody to touch.
Speaker A:What is it?
Speaker A:You bring my parents into it.
Speaker B:There you go.
Speaker A:You know, another one say, oh, why then the whole thing just go like that.
Speaker A:So little.
Speaker A:Little things in communication.
Speaker A:If we are not presenting in love, if we are not doing in a way like, like, like.
Speaker A:Like we talk about.
Speaker A:Like the Bible said, he said, a seizing war with grace.
Speaker A:You know, so if that word is said in grace, it won't get to that level.
Speaker A:Yeah, if he said in love, if it's in.
Speaker A:It would never get into that level.
Speaker A:They will have de.
Speaker A:Escalated and they will have.
Speaker A:Forget it all things just wipe it and wipe it and the whole thing is gone.
Speaker A:They will be.
Speaker A:But they never.
Speaker A:Even though they Love each other, they have all those things, but the love just totally vanish away.
Speaker A:So the devil can use anything.
Speaker A:So another one, another thing.
Speaker A:I believe, and this is very important, I know I will tell you the story of it when I talk about it.
Speaker A:How, when I say it's so important because I've seen the value of it.
Speaker A:And that is praying together daily.
Speaker A:Praying together daily.
Speaker A:I believe to mean is what can confirm your love, that can confirm your love to us, your spouse, your family, and to God.
Speaker A:Because that is the point where you can resolve everything.
Speaker A:Why did I say that?
Speaker A:Because whatsoever you bring before God and you bring God into, can never be lied.
Speaker A:It's more holy, it's more sincere, it's more truthful.
Speaker A:It's everything like, because you cannot bring life before God if you are a believer that you totally trust God and believe in God.
Speaker A:So the prayer time becomes a vulnerable time of each of each and every one to express themselves because God is in the midst of it.
Speaker A:So daily prayer, even though it strengthens the relationship, it strengthens the family.
Speaker A:Remember we talk about communication, also strengthen intimacy and also strengthen love and strengthen faith if we are able to use it to do those things.
Speaker A:So prayer becomes another part of it.
Speaker A:If the family pray together, their faith is strengthened, their love is strengthened towards one another and intimacy is also becoming stronger.
Speaker A:Because you look into your, your wife's eyes.
Speaker A:You're not only seeing her, but you see in Christ.
Speaker A:She's not only seeing you, she's seeing Christ in you and your son, your daughter, everyone they see, if, if, if even from them, they will also begin to, to, to.
Speaker A:To honor God and develop equality for God.
Speaker A:Because you see what the father or the mother is doing before God in prayer time.
Speaker A:So I remember how I got into that.
Speaker A:My father in law, because I always, you know, give due respect to who needs to be give to or I mean say a credit.
Speaker A:When we were still dating, okay, we, we're married almost 29 years now.
Speaker A:We did it for almost like nine years or seven years on the marriage day.
Speaker A:Seven plus 29.
Speaker A:That's about 36 years now that we know each other about.
Speaker B:My 30s plus, when I told my dad that I find somebody I was going to marry, he said, oh, when we came, when he came to ask for my hand in marriage, when I told my dad that we've been going out for about nine years, my dad said, nine years.
Speaker B:Two of you are too young.
Speaker B:What about go do the cip?
Speaker B:Go do everything.
Speaker B:You know, we've been, we've been Going out for nine years we've been doing courtship.
Speaker B:And it's about time now to say, yes dad, I want your daughter in marriage.
Speaker B:So when we add nine to 29 years, I've known this man a long time.
Speaker A:Long time.
Speaker A:So when you take away the marriage, he would just be the friend on his own.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's a long time.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:So you.
Speaker A:But, but what I'm trying to say there is that I walk into each time I go to their house, I see them on the prayer that they ring the bell.
Speaker A:They, they, they Catholic, Catholic by background.
Speaker A:And in my part I'm Muslim by background, but become Pentecostal after giving my life to Christ.
Speaker A:You know, our family developed like that when God encounter my father, my parents, that we end up becoming somebody that go to church.
Speaker A:But the point there is that I, I didn't grow up with in a family where we come together to pray every day.
Speaker A:I know some of our tenants in the, they pray in their house in the morning when I, we don't do that, you know.
Speaker A:But when I go to their house, I see prayer time.
Speaker A:Everybody come their dad lead the prayer and everybody has to be there even when we're still out here.
Speaker A:Like I need to get home for prayer.
Speaker A:Like get home.
Speaker A:But see she talking about.
Speaker A:So when I keep seeing that it, it really encouraged me.
Speaker A:So it become something that I look up to.
Speaker A:But you know, in my house my parents don't do, they don't really do that.
Speaker A:I won't lie to you.
Speaker A:My parents even they fight my growing up.
Speaker A:My parents, they shout at each.
Speaker A:No, not that they don't.
Speaker A:My mom don't shout.
Speaker A:My dad, but my dad shout to my mom when will say things that she don't really like.
Speaker A:And she would, you know, boys always, you want to like, oh, if I, if only I can protect this woman.
Speaker A:If only I can, you know, that kind of mindset.
Speaker A:If only I can protect her.
Speaker A:You know, you want to if possible stand up for that and say no, why you do that?
Speaker A:You know, but I couldn't do that then.
Speaker A:But nevertheless I'm going in my heart and saying, well, I believe I'm not going to do this.
Speaker A:I'm not gonna let this be part of what I'm gonna have in my family, my relationship.
Speaker A:So even then I was not even born again, but I still have it growing up that oh no, I have to shift my relationship with whosoever marry in a different way.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:But when I now see my father in law doing this, the more when I Become born again.
Speaker A:And I say, no, I'm going to institute the same thing.
Speaker A:Even though the word of God may, you know, clarify that.
Speaker A:I also started.
Speaker A:And ever since then, I'll say, even if we started before we get married.
Speaker A:So that means over 30 years now that we've been doing daily prayer together.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Or our children grew up with it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:We have a family altar.
Speaker B:We pray together in the morning, especially in the evening when we come together because of the worst schedule in the morning.
Speaker B:We make sure there is a time.
Speaker B:We have a time set in this family for family prayer at night.
Speaker B:If you are not here at that time, even when our kids are far away in their school, they know the time set, they can stop.
Speaker B:Then they're going to pray because they know mom and dad are praying at that time.
Speaker B:We have a set time.
Speaker B:That's a family time.
Speaker B:He got that from my family.
Speaker B:Because on my growing up, my dad always institute before we step out, we all have to read the word of God.
Speaker B:He will ring a bell.
Speaker B:Everybody from your room, if you don't come out of your room, if my dad comes get you.
Speaker B:When I was a teenager, I was like, oh, my God.
Speaker B:Then we have to go downstairs, we have to read the word of God, we have to pray.
Speaker B:Then everybody go do their thing and go home.
Speaker B:Then at night, the same thing.
Speaker B:When we were cutting, we go outside, I gotta be home.
Speaker B:He said, wish home, man.
Speaker B:Let's say I said, I got to be home.
Speaker B:I have to be home at that.
Speaker B:If I'm late, the eye my dad would give me, first of all, where are you coming from?
Speaker B:I might give him some excuses like, okay, you know better.
Speaker B:You know the prayer time.
Speaker B:I be like, oh, dad, I'm sorry, it's traffic.
Speaker B:But it's a set time in the morning and it's a set time even if you're sick, you will be rolled down to that prayer meeting ground.
Speaker B:I will pray.
Speaker B:So that's where my husband got up from.
Speaker B:And it has been in our family.
Speaker B:And this will used to encourage a lot of families.
Speaker B:We encourage a lot of people that want to get married.
Speaker B:We encourage families too, that there should be an altar.
Speaker B:I know we all have busy life, busy schedule, but if you set it in your family, you will see how he's very, very of a blessing.
Speaker B:The word of God said it also in all things in prayer, if you have an argument with your spouse before, when you are in that prayer ground, after you begin to pray, you begin to open up, you can say, I'm Sorry.
Speaker B:Because you're before God, you place it in the hands of God.
Speaker B:Lord, help me.
Speaker B:I've not been right with my husband, I've been right with my son.
Speaker B:Help me.
Speaker B:Because you're praying it and your kids are hearing.
Speaker B:So you're also asking God to forgive you first and then your kids and your husband to forgive you.
Speaker B:Because it's in that prayer time.
Speaker B:I didn't do right.
Speaker B:I didn't say the truth.
Speaker B:Maybe I went shopping too much, things like that.
Speaker B:Because in the marriage that's where it comes.
Speaker B:That's where God is with you people there.
Speaker B:And whatever you put in the hands of God right there in your prayer time is a silting because he's the foundation in that home, in that marriage.
Speaker B:So I always encourage, always employ people prayer.
Speaker B:Prayer is very powerful because our mouth, we go on our knees and tell it to the Lord.
Speaker B:Very, very powerful.
Speaker B:So we are blessed by that.
Speaker B:We continue to pray that our children's children's children's children will continue in that, in that, in that step.
Speaker A:If I may add this to it, you know, when I.
Speaker A:Because this prayer is very, very important.
Speaker A:I mean bring together that order.
Speaker A:I know like she said, there may be visitor for everybody that may not be able to make it.
Speaker A:But if you have instituted in your marriage, it's.
Speaker A:The time will come.
Speaker A:I mean, you end up creating time for it.
Speaker A:The God himself will help you, the Holy Spirit will help you to arrange that time for you that you find out the time is making is possible.
Speaker A:And also you knowing that because I have appointment time with God.
Speaker A:Are you going to keep the Lord waiting that will be running your heart to create the time for it.
Speaker A:You get what I mean?
Speaker A:So it get to a time that even when we, even when we're not ready, our dog will walk down and say, what you guys doing?
Speaker A:What's happening?
Speaker A:I haven't seen anybody.
Speaker A:You start pulling people and say why?
Speaker A:You know, coming together.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:You know, and the prayer time is.
Speaker A:Some people, you know, it may be short time to pray, but our own used to be more like a little short fellowship.
Speaker A:Because it takes more, some little more time before.
Speaker A:I mean within our prayer and sometimes he end up extending.
Speaker A:When we see God just move in our midst, there are many times that God will just move powerfully in our means that we don't even expect that.
Speaker A:We just want to pray a little prayer and have short fellowship worship and then, then it turn into another set of power of God.
Speaker A:So it's helped.
Speaker A:And then from what she said, Which I also said earlier is that when you pouring your heart to God in prayer and your son is hearing that maybe you are asked to him, you do this to your child, your son and this.
Speaker A:And he finds that dad is saying to God, Lord, I didn't mean to do that to him.
Speaker A:But you know, this and that, you know, he definitely know what that said is really true.
Speaker A:It's not that he just said it to me personally.
Speaker A:For him to say it before God or even for your wife to see that, oh, he's saying, oh, well, I know I need your help on this way, Lord, to help me to be able to be more better than this in this area.
Speaker A:Then you know that.
Speaker A:Well, I think she's, she's, she's answering to it.
Speaker A:It's not that she just mean it or even me when I try to say certain things.
Speaker A:You know, saying all those things before God will make.
Speaker A:You don't need to tell people what, whether you're saying in truth or not, because you're saying before the Lord.
Speaker A:And God will always honor that by I mean turning those things around or not only turning around it make it.
Speaker A:If, if God want everybody to adapt to that thing, you know, then people, everyone begin to know, then I mean your spouse can then relate to you that okay, these things we need to work together with.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Because God is a means of trying to work it out too.
Speaker A:You understand?
Speaker A:So I believe that the Bible.
Speaker A:Let's look at what the Bible also said.
Speaker A:Matthew, Matthew says Matthew 19, 18, 19.
Speaker A:He said again I said unto you that if two of you shall agree on earth as concerning anything that they image concerning, that they shall ask, it shall be done for them.
Speaker A:For my Father who is heaven.
Speaker A:Amen.
Speaker A:So we find that when two of us now agree together to pray, it become more powerful.
Speaker A:The thing you are trying to struggle on your own.
Speaker A:Then you pray together as a family, it becomes more powerful.
Speaker A:Not just, you know, the Bible also says one which is a thousand and two, ten thousand.
Speaker A:You see that coming together unity is so important.
Speaker A:And that unity also it has to be unity in love.
Speaker A:Because when you are fighting or when you are argument, you have grudges so much in your heart, you're not already a plot, you are a minus in that unity, in moving forward in answering to that prayer for God to answer that prayer, you're already a minus.
Speaker A:So Instead of being 2, 2 to become 10,000, it become 2 even minus the 10,000.
Speaker A:You get what I'm trying to say?
Speaker A:Because you, you are not in the right Mind in the right position with God.
Speaker A:So that's why we have to be with your spouse.
Speaker A:And we also know colossians, also colossians 4.
Speaker A:Two tells or said that we should continue.
Speaker A:It's a continuing prayer.
Speaker A:And watch in the same with Thanksgiving.
Speaker A:So prayer with Thanksgiving is so important.
Speaker A:You get the opportunity every day.
Speaker A:That does not include the one we pray individually.
Speaker A:Yeah, you know, I'm driving and praying.
Speaker A:You have your own quiet time.
Speaker A:But we still have that one together as a family.
Speaker A:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker A:Another thing is also for us to be able to, and I call this one encourage.
Speaker A:Encourage our farm one another.
Speaker A:You know, always encourage one another and affirm one another so that when you're speaking, you're speaking in love, you're speaking with.
Speaker A:Encouraging you.
Speaker A:You.
Speaker A:You're not being proud, but you're speaking everything in love.
Speaker A:Amen.
Speaker A:You want to talk about the example?
Speaker B:Like, okay, like the example.
Speaker B:It says.
Speaker B:It says encourage and affirm one another.
Speaker B:We all know affirmation is very good.
Speaker B:We can come in the morning and say, sweetheart, you look so, so beautiful today.
Speaker B:Things like that.
Speaker B:Being encouraging.
Speaker B:And you said the.
Speaker B:How proud I am of you.
Speaker B:Thank you for being, thank you for being the man that God has chosen for me.
Speaker B:I bless God for the day that God brought us together.
Speaker B:You know, affirmation of wars, encouragement of wars.
Speaker B:And I really thank you for the dinner last night.
Speaker B:I am grateful that you are able to assist me with this.
Speaker B:Thank you for all your hard work.
Speaker B:Thank you for taking care of the kids and men, you know, things like that.
Speaker B:We encourage other even.
Speaker B:Even when they don't do anything.
Speaker B:I am so thankful that you are my husband.
Speaker B:I am so thankful that you are the head of this household, the.
Speaker B:The father to my children.
Speaker B:So we have found each other.
Speaker B:We encourage each other in love in kind words and gentle worlds at the same, the same also, even in a relationship with our friends.
Speaker B:You know, how we go out with our friends, say, I really appreciate you for being here to talk to me.
Speaker B:I really thank you for encouraging me.
Speaker B:I really thank you for supporting me in my, in my, in my things.
Speaker B:I'm doing my business or in school or something.
Speaker B:Those are very, very good.
Speaker B:Those are the things that God said we should do because he helps us.
Speaker B:He boosts our relationship.
Speaker B:He boosts even our way of life.
Speaker B:You know, there's somebody there that can encourage you, that can support, support you, that you can talk to with kind words, with sweet words.
Speaker B:We can invoice.
Speaker B:So it's very, very, very good.
Speaker B:Even when we had a misunderstanding.
Speaker B:Especially in a marriage.
Speaker B:I'm not saying we are perfect.
Speaker B:We are never perfect.
Speaker B:There is misunderstanding, there is crashes.
Speaker B:But there is a way you can come together.
Speaker B:Don't sleep on it.
Speaker B:Even when you sleep on it, when you wake up in the morning, I am so sorry, I'm guilty of that.
Speaker B:When we are in a marriage, I'm guilty.
Speaker B:I don't say sorry easily.
Speaker B:But my darling, he will be the first.
Speaker B:I'm sorry, I don't say, I'll say then I had to do that.
Speaker B:Say, lord, help me, it doesn't matter.
Speaker B:I want to be right, right, right.
Speaker B:Sometimes we women, I'll say, lord, help me, break me down.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:There are things I do.
Speaker B:This man, he's telling me, sorry, I am the one at fault.
Speaker B:So I have to tell the Lord in that.
Speaker B:So we should do all that too.
Speaker B:Be kind words and encouraging and supporting.
Speaker A:Still giving the word of affirmation and encouragement.
Speaker A:Another thing on that, that we also gain from it.
Speaker A:It's also, it builds confidence in us.
Speaker A:Because if nobody's giving you the confidence outside making you feel somehow, at least your spouse can make you feel confident going on.
Speaker A:And your children, there's sometimes I know the time when I look at them, oh, you look beautiful today, man.
Speaker A:You know, I, I, I.
Speaker A:Then I end up calling like, like my girlfriend, you mind if I go out with you today?
Speaker A:You know, saying some stuff, some new stuff that said, or sometimes just walking.
Speaker A:It does, it does.
Speaker A:The girl I got money to, that's the girl I used to go out with, you know, just looking at that, that day.
Speaker A:I mean, the way you see your spouse, when you, maybe you come into the room and you say, oh, my God.
Speaker A:Oh, that was the angel I fall in love with that day.
Speaker A:You know, even though it's been a long time or you get close to her, I look at the face I look at and say, oh, man, that lips never change, man.
Speaker A:That lips has always been the driving thing that, you know, it look beautiful, man.
Speaker A:You look beautiful.
Speaker A:And then, thank you.
Speaker A:You know that on his own build confidence.
Speaker A:Or maybe she walk into my place.
Speaker A:You see me even.
Speaker A:Maybe I've not even brushed my teeth.
Speaker A:I was still having my coffee.
Speaker A:I said, you are this your coffee?
Speaker A:Is the man I got married to me.
Speaker A:Well, I like your mess.
Speaker A:I like your this, I'm in love with your mess, with your good with everything.
Speaker A:And then you give me a hug.
Speaker A:I'm like, okay.
Speaker A:He said, he said, oh, I'm telling me you make a mess here.
Speaker A:You need to clean up this and say, well, I love your mess, I love your this.
Speaker A:I love everything.
Speaker A:Just.
Speaker A:I'm like, okay.
Speaker A:She's trying to tell me to take this thing off, you know, so the confidence sometimes or maybe you're going out, you have appointment with business appointment or something like that.
Speaker A:And she.
Speaker A:You walk and say, hey, you look good man.
Speaker A:You good with that.
Speaker A:On his own, we're boosting your morale, boosting your confidence.
Speaker A:And where you're going on like some.
Speaker A:On like a spouse saying you're not even looking good.
Speaker A:What are you wearing?
Speaker A:What you know, just condemn me to tell you that's can demoralize one.
Speaker A:So it's always good when we affirm one another with love with words that can build confidence in each other.
Speaker A:And also they can.
Speaker A:Sorry.
Speaker A:They can be more romantic.
Speaker B:Oh yeah.
Speaker A:You know, because when the moment romantic is missing in marriage, no matter how anointed you are, the moment that romance is missing you, you going down into problem.
Speaker A:Because the devil will use that opportunity to.
Speaker A:To now begin to see some other people that are giving.
Speaker A:Showing some romantic thing.
Speaker A:Because we are.
Speaker A:We are all human with flesh, you know.
Speaker A:So the devil will play those one to your husband or play to your wife and say, oh, my husband.
Speaker A:Oh, I don't know.
Speaker A:I can't remember the last day.
Speaker B:Never hold my hands.
Speaker B:It doesn't take me out, take me for drinks.
Speaker A:It begin to bring out those things.
Speaker A:But when you.
Speaker A:We spice it up with those room.
Speaker A:Especially when the.
Speaker A:When the relationship become longer.
Speaker A:I tell you, I mean many people that are young couple will still enjoy that.
Speaker A:When you are.
Speaker A:When you're three years, two years, five years, you know, all those.
Speaker A:The fire will be burning like that.
Speaker A:But the moment you get to 20 years or 15 years, things get changing.
Speaker A:You know, there's a lot of things that come together in the family and some things.
Speaker A:Sometimes some things you don't even know about.
Speaker B:Yeah, that's gonna change that.
Speaker A:You know, even I said the no house is gonna be.
Speaker A:I don't know I'm gonna be.
Speaker A:After I've been in a relationship for.
Speaker A:I mean for 20 years.
Speaker A:When I was in the beginning of it.
Speaker A:I don't know how it's gonna be.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:As of that time.
Speaker A:Because you yourself, you don't know what you're gonna be.
Speaker A:I don't know how it's gonna be when I don't have a job or when I have a job.
Speaker A:How my relationship or when I have children or I don't have.
Speaker A:You know, nobody knows that we just know that the word of God give you confidence that you go with, you walk with and keep you in line with it.
Speaker A:So it's so important when we, when, when the romance is kept in it with the affirmation of that, we continue to spread it.
Speaker A:And you know, the Holy Spirit will always help us through with it because he is the center of it all.
Speaker B:And if I can add to that part when he says, the more you are in your marriage, you must stand it up from year to year three, the spark is there, the beauty is there, children are growing up.
Speaker B:And then you go into the marriage, as you go deeper into the marriage, with the grace of God and the help of God.
Speaker B:Me, myself don't know how I'm gonna be when I'm in my marriage of 20 years.
Speaker B:When my age is different from when I was steady.
Speaker B:The things I can do when I was steady is different from what I can do now.
Speaker B:The same with my husband.
Speaker B:So before we can run a marathon, now he's like, no, we're just walking down the street and we are back.
Speaker B:So things like that.
Speaker B:And nobody should take it for granted.
Speaker B:Look at you, you're lazy.
Speaker B:Some people are doing all this.
Speaker B:So in a marriage, in a relationship, in a courtship.
Speaker B:No, it's not like that.
Speaker B:We have to do it with love.
Speaker B:Oh, I know, I know how you used to run, but age is slowing you down or this is going.
Speaker B:So we have to treat it with love, we have to treat it with respect.
Speaker B:It doesn't mean some people don't have all the things to go for dinner or that even if he's cooking some ramen noodles.
Speaker B:Oh, I made you a ramen noodles.
Speaker B:This, things like that, you make it that.
Speaker B:I know you work so hard.
Speaker B:Two days ago, let me take care of all these little things here and there.
Speaker B:Let me help.
Speaker B:Sometimes I used to nag at my sweetheart like, oh, you didn't even help me with that, my drive through car.
Speaker B:You didn't wash my car.
Speaker B:Is that.
Speaker B:Oh yeah, I go to drive through, I'll go do the drive thru, things like that.
Speaker B:You know, the washer kind of drive through instead of washing it with the hose in the backyard.
Speaker B:So little thing like that, you see your car is washed, is vacuum, little bit like that for each other, to encourage each other.
Speaker B:The same thing on your children.
Speaker B:You take a word of affirmation so that it can boost the confidence.
Speaker B:I'm so proud of you.
Speaker B:You're going for this job, you're going to this school, you know, you're a child of God.
Speaker B:You are example to your generation.
Speaker B:Be a light to your friends.
Speaker B:Friends.
Speaker B:It will help them.
Speaker B:It boosts them, because they know where they are and where they're going to, because you have already put them in there.
Speaker B:They will go for that.
Speaker B:They will be a lie to their generation.
Speaker B:They will be different from their peers.
Speaker B:Even if their peers are doing this, they'll be like, ah, I don't think we should go do that right now.
Speaker B:Because they know that the world has been implanted in them.
Speaker B:Right from the home they come, right from the church they wear, where from the community they are.
Speaker B:So what's affirmation and encouragement and love is very, very important through our communication, though it's not by yelling, oh, look at you going there, doing this.
Speaker B:Things like that.
