What Does Humility in Marriage Look Like?
Humility is the secret sauce for a thriving marriage, and trust me, it’s totally a superpower! We’re diving into what humility in marriage really looks like, and spoiler alert: it’s not about being a doormat or just nodding along. Instead, it’s all about mutual respect and owning up to our imperfections—because, surprise, none of us are perfect! We’re your hosts, Jeff and Teresa Fields, and after 33 years of marriage and a few hilarious missteps, we’re here to share the wisdom we’ve picked up along the way. So buckle up, because we’re about to explore how humility can elevate your relationship and make it shine brighter than your wedding day!
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Humility in marriage is like the secret sauce that makes everything tastier and better. It's that magical ingredient that not only helps couples navigate the tricky waters of partnership but also creates a bond that’s stronger than your morning coffee. Jeff and Teresa dive into what humility really looks like in a marriage, emphasizing that it doesn't mean being a doormat or letting your spouse walk all over you. Nope, it’s about mutual respect and knowing that neither of you is perfect—surprise! They share their own stories, like how they’ve learned to communicate openly and admit when they've messed up. Because let’s face it, we all have those moments, right? By the end of the episode, you’ll see that walking in humility is about being selfless and prioritizing your partner's needs, and trust me, it’s a game-changer for your relationship.
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What does Humility in Marriage Look Like?
Speaker A:Welcome to the Inspiring Marriages Podcast.
Speaker A:We're diving deep into an often overlooked but vital component of a thriving marriage.
Speaker A:Humility.
Speaker B:In a culture that often glorifies self promotion and being right at all costs, humility might not seem like a superpower.
Speaker B:But trust us, it absolutely is.
Speaker A:We are Jeff and Teresa Fields and we are thrilled to have you with us today.
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Speaker A:As Dr.
Speaker A:Jerry Savelle would say, God is a champion of making winners in life.
Speaker A:We've been talking about Ephesians 5:24 5 in Ephesians 5:25 in the voice translation says husbands, you must love your wife so deeply, purely and sacrificially that we can understand it only when we compare it to the love the Anointed one has for his bride, the Church.
Speaker A:As we learned before, that word love is agape, which means selfless.
Speaker A:So husbands were to love our selflessly, love our wives so deeply, purely and sacrificially that the only thing you can compare it to is the selfless love of Christ that's right, that Jesus has for the church, for his bride.
Speaker A:The church.
Speaker A: in New American Standard: Speaker A:The word grasp means utilized or asserted.
Speaker A:So Jesus didn't grasp.
Speaker A:He didn't think to be an equal with God was something to hang on to and grasp, but he emptied Himself or laid aside his privileges, which is also called kenosis.
Speaker A:He emptied himself to become the form of a bond, servant.
Speaker A:He was made in the likeness of men.
Speaker B:That is amazing.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:He was completely submitted to the Father and his plan and submitted to all the prophetic things that were spoken about him that were recorded in Scripture.
Speaker B:So I love how you know, we were discussing this earlier, that he was so submitted to the word of God and God's will, that is, he could empty himself and say, not my will, but your will.
Speaker B:He didn't just do that in the garden of Gethsemane.
Speaker B:He did that all the way through his whole life.
Speaker A:He was submitted to the will of the Father.
Speaker A:He said, I say nothing unless I heard my.
Speaker A:My Father say it.
Speaker A:I do nothing unless I see my father say it.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:His humility is not what we.
Speaker A:Some people would call humility.
Speaker A:Oh, I'm just a lowly dog.
Speaker A:I'm a.
Speaker A:I'm a worm.
Speaker A:No one's wanting to listen to me.
Speaker A:I'll go out there and preach, but no one's going to.
Speaker A:No one likes me.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:He wasn't that type of.
Speaker A:It wasn't that type of false humility.
Speaker A:But he was.
Speaker A:I am submitted to the will of the Father.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:So that's how we walk in humility in our.
Speaker A:In our marriage.
Speaker A:We are submitted to the truth of the Scripture.
Speaker B:Right?
Speaker A:And so when we.
Speaker A:When we hear or we read and we apply Ephesians 5:25, which Paul instructed husbands to selflessly love their wives by being humble.
Speaker A:To walk in humility means that I obey it and implement and walk that out.
Speaker A:I am.
Speaker A:I will selflessly love my.
Speaker A:My wife.
Speaker A:And that is being humble and submitting myself to the truth of the Scripture.
Speaker A:So the will of God.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:Is revealed by the Scriptures.
Speaker A:If you want to know the will of God, you watch how Jesus walked out.
Speaker A:Walked out his life.
Speaker A:That is the will of God.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:So when he submitted, even in the garden of Gethsemane, he said, if there's any way for this to happen without me, have to partake of this nastiness.
Speaker A:Figuratively.
Speaker A:It was like a cup full of the worst things you could ever imagine.
Speaker A:The filthiest things on earth.
Speaker A:And he had to drink that figuratively.
Speaker A:That's what it was like.
Speaker A:He says, there's any way for me not to partake of this, Let it.
Speaker A:Let's do that way.
Speaker A:But nevertheless, not my will, but your will be done.
Speaker A:So that's how we do It.
Speaker A:I may.
Speaker A:I want to do this, or I want this to happen.
Speaker A:I want to go here.
Speaker A:But to be.
Speaker A:To love my wife selflessly, Right.
Speaker A:I do something different.
Speaker A:I have a different attitude, or we do something different.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:So that is being submitted to the will of God.
Speaker A:That's walking in humility.
Speaker A:Being submitted to the truth of the scriptures.
Speaker B:That's so beautiful.
Speaker B:I really like that.
Speaker A:So what does humility in marriage look like?
Speaker A:Let's dive into that just a little bit today.
Speaker A:So humility, it doesn't mean that you're a doormat, where your spouse just walks all over you and you can't ever express your opinion, you can't ever contradict your spouse, is just, you know, it's not that at all.
Speaker A:It's about mutual respect and the willingness to admit that you're not always perfect.
Speaker A:Believe it or not.
Speaker A:I know.
Speaker A:I know people might.
Speaker A:Well, gee whiz, Jeffrey, he's just perfect.
Speaker A:No, I'm not perfect.
Speaker A:One time I thought was wrong, but I was in error.
Speaker A:No, I've been wrong a lot of times.
Speaker A:And a lot of times I've had to ask for forgiveness and apologize to Teresa and the kids.
Speaker A:And I had to learn how to be a husband.
Speaker A:I had to learn how to be a father.
Speaker A:It's just right.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:And you learn along the way.
Speaker A:And just like when you're a baby, you're learning to walk, you fall down, and that's how you learn to walk, by falling down and getting back up and getting back up in marriage, you know, I had to learn how to be open to my.
Speaker A:My spouse.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:I had to learn how to meet her biggest need, which is open and honest communication.
Speaker A:So it is a journey.
Speaker A:So day one of your marriage, you know, you're not going to.
Speaker A:If you are, thumbs up to you, buddy.
Speaker A:But I had to learn how to be a husband, right?
Speaker B:Oh, yes.
Speaker B:I had to learn how to be a wife.
Speaker B:Because it's a whole different ball game, you know, to share your life with another person.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:In every area.
Speaker B:So it does take humility.
Speaker B:And like Jeff said, neither person should feel like a doormat.
Speaker B:Somebody's being very overbearing if the other person feels like a doormat.
Speaker B:That's not right.
Speaker B:So that's.
Speaker B:That's a bad picture.
Speaker B:You know, there's things wrong with this picture.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:So I love this that you.
Speaker B:You define this by saying it's about mutual respect and the willingness to admit that you're not always perfect, where you're not, you're not perfect.
Speaker B:I mean, nobody is perfect.
Speaker B:We're all learning, we're all growing.
Speaker B:We're all trying and sometimes messing up, but trying again and asking God, how do I walk this out?
Speaker B:How do I treat my husband?
Speaker B:Or how do I treat my wife?
Speaker B:I mean, he has so many ways to show you how to be a blessing, how to be humble and submitted to each other and have a great marriage.
Speaker A:Right, Right.
Speaker A:So humility in marriage is not the wife walking tense paces behind the husband or head down.
Speaker A:No, no, let's be quiet.
Speaker A:Father's home.
Speaker A:Let's don't wake him.
Speaker A:Let's don't bother him.
Speaker A:Father just came home.
Speaker A:Let's just be quiet.
Speaker A:It's not like that at all.
Speaker A:It's not where someone is being put down.
Speaker A:Like we said many, many times, husbands and wife are equal.
Speaker A:And you're called together.
Speaker A:You have an assignment, your marriage has an assignment together.
Speaker A:Peter Kraft said, humility is the bond of heaven.
Speaker A:Pride is the frigidity of.
Speaker A:Of hell.
Speaker B:I love that.
Speaker B:You know, think.
Speaker B:Think about what is it that holds everything together in heaven?
Speaker B:You know, it's the love of God.
Speaker B:It's humility.
Speaker B:It's everything based on God's will.
Speaker B:And what is beautiful and full of grace and goodness.
Speaker B:I mean, that's.
Speaker B:That's so awesome.
Speaker B:He wants us to have that right in marriage.
Speaker B:That's so beautiful.
Speaker B:Then the second way that we can see what humility looks like in marriage is the power of saying I was wrong or I need your perspective.
Speaker B:I don't know everything I need to know.
Speaker B:Or just saying I was wrong, like saying I'm sorry or I was wrong to suppose you thought the way I thought.
Speaker B:That happens a lot.
Speaker A:Oh, yes.
Speaker B:Oh, my goodness.
Speaker A:That is a misinterpretation of intent or feelings.
Speaker B:Oh, yes.
Speaker A:Oh, I didn't know that you wanted to go to this.
Speaker A:To this place, or I didn't know you wanted to go to this event.
Speaker A:Oh, I didn't know that that ball game was so important to you.
Speaker A:Or I didn't know that you really looked forward to this and just an understanding or misunderstanding of the other person's feelings or what they thought about something.
Speaker B:Right?
Speaker B:Oh, that.
Speaker B:Yeah, that's so, so true.
Speaker B:So if we can humble ourselves and say I was wrong, you know, let's try to do this over.
Speaker B:Let's have a do over, and I'll consider more about what you are thinking and feeling or what you wanted in this situation.
Speaker B:Or, you know, let's.
Speaker B:Let's make sure we Catch this next time.
Speaker A:Right, right.
Speaker B:Not miss out on that opportunity.
Speaker B:But I like this too, about needing your perspective.
Speaker B:If we're going to make a decision or, or just plan something.
Speaker B:It really helps to have both perspectives.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker B:Before you make decisions or before you plan something.
Speaker B:It, it's not a good picture if you see one spouse doing all the planning or all the going ahead or making all the decisions and the other just like, well, hey, do I get to have a say?
Speaker B:So that's, that's not working together.
Speaker B:That's not a partnership.
Speaker B:So we each need the perspective of the other and we can come to great conclusions or make some really great plans knowing what you're thinking, what I'm thinking.
Speaker A:Right, right.
Speaker B:And what is God talking to us about?
Speaker B:You know, do we even need to do this right now or do we need to do something else?
Speaker B:That God is saying this needs to come first and then you can get to that other thing that you want to do.
Speaker B:You know, just, it helps so much in every area.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:So you know, your decision making process shouldn't be who, who has the better idea.
Speaker A:It has really come together and you might together come up with an idea or a solution that neither one of you will reach by yourself individually.
Speaker A:But together, as you're discussing exchanging, giving your perspective, you might find that your solutions is way up here.
Speaker A:No, this, you got a 4D solution where either one of you, you Both were like 2D and, but you get this.
Speaker A:But together, you know, it's way up here.
Speaker A:Your solution is just, it's just so much better when you take into each other's perspective.
Speaker B:That's so good.
Speaker B:I love that.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:And you know, the Lord works in our midst when we're humbling ourselves and submitting ourselves to one another.
Speaker B:And like you said, he can take us to such a higher level than either one of us even was seeing individually.
Speaker B:That's, that's really awesome.
Speaker A:So it's not only we need each other's perspective, we need God's perspective.
Speaker B:Right, Exactly.
Speaker A:So His Word says, no, his thoughts are not our thoughts, his ways, not our ways.
Speaker A:But he invites us to come up and listen to what his thoughts are and learn what his ways are so our thoughts can be like his thoughts.
Speaker A:So it just elevates us and it elevates your marriage.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:So a lot of time is, or most of the time we're going to say all the time we need God's perspective on something and that really elevates our solution to even to 5D.
Speaker A:I don't know or 10D.
Speaker B:There's no limit.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:So it really.
Speaker A:So not.
Speaker A:Instead of a, a 3D cube, now you're at crystals where you have all these sides and just lum.
Speaker B:Limited sides unlimited.
Speaker A:So it really elevates your, your solution by taking into his perspective.
Speaker B:And that, that gets back to praying together too.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:You know, we can talk about it and say, this is what we're both seeing.
Speaker B:And then you pray about it and ask for wisdom.
Speaker B:God could open up something so much grander, so much better than what you were thinking and show you things in the word.
Speaker B:This is how to walk it out, step by step.
Speaker A:Rick Warren said, humility is not denying your strengths, but accepting your weaknesses.
Speaker A:So it's not about living in denial.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:But you come to accept your weakness.
Speaker A:But when your areas that you're weak, you're going to find your spouse is stronger in those areas.
Speaker A:So everyone has weaker and stronger areas and you're not the same.
Speaker A:And you'll be, you'll be both strong in some areas and you both be weaker in some areas.
Speaker A:But there's a lot of areas where your spouse will be stronger than them, than you are, and you'll be stronger in other areas than they are.
Speaker A:So learn to use the strength of your spouse.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:And it kind of elevates the relationship.
Speaker B:It does.
Speaker A:Some examples of humility in action.
Speaker A:Number one, apologizing.
Speaker A:This is when you get used.
Speaker A:Not everyone on day one of your marriage.
Speaker A:I know.
Speaker A:Is this true?
Speaker A:For me, on day one, our marriage, I did not know how to be a husband.
Speaker A:I did not know how to meet Teresa's needs.
Speaker A:I didn't know what her needs were.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:I didn't know.
Speaker A:There were a lot of marriage books and they were good.
Speaker A:And Love is a Decision, Maximize Manhood by Evan Lewis Cole.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:There was really.
Speaker A:They were really great marriage books.
Speaker B:The Unique Woman.
Speaker A:The Unique Woman.
Speaker A:Really great marriage books.
Speaker A:And in, in the early 90s, in the 80s and 90s, they really were.
Speaker A:But I really didn't.
Speaker A:Until you start applying those principles that you learn that, you know, you haven't really learned them until you apply them.
Speaker A:So it's a lot of apologizing.
Speaker A:So it's okay.
Speaker A:I assume that you wanted this, but really, you really.
Speaker A:Because we think the other one thinks like we do.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:Theresa didn't know how a man thought.
Speaker B:No, I didn't know how to have a.
Speaker A:How a woman thought.
Speaker A:So she didn't know how I thought and I didn't know how she thought.
Speaker A:So it was A lot of learning each other and the particulars of each other, what, what they like, they disliked and how they.
Speaker A:They made decisions in the thought process.
Speaker A:So it was a lot of apologizing.
Speaker A:So on day one, I didn't know how to do that.
Speaker A:Maybe you do.
Speaker A:Day one, you know how to do everything.
Speaker A:That's great.
Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker A:But more power to you.
Speaker A:But the Lord bless you.
Speaker A:But is you do spend time apologizing.
Speaker A:I'm sorry I didn't consider your.
Speaker A:Your opinion on this or sorry, I assume that you, that you wanted the.
Speaker A:Your meat, your steak raw.
Speaker A:No, just.
Speaker B:I mean, just thought you liked it.
Speaker B:Like I like it.
Speaker A:I liked it.
Speaker B:Right?
Speaker B:Yeah, that's easy to do.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah, that's so good.
Speaker B:Another example of humility in action is truly listening to your spouse without planning your rebuttal.
Speaker B:Don't be thinking about a good comeback or this is how I'm going to counter what they're saying.
Speaker B:Or I've got, I've got something to add to that.
Speaker B:You know, let.
Speaker B:Just calm down.
Speaker B:You don't need to be thinking about those things in order to listen.
Speaker B:You got to give that person undivided attention, not be formulating anything.
Speaker B:Just listen and don't put filters to what they're talking about.
Speaker B:Let them say what they have to say.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:So when you're.
Speaker A:And this is, this is an active listening technique is where you.
Speaker A:When someone's.
Speaker A:And you're having a discussion and it's maybe something you both, you don't agree on to yet, but you're having a discussion.
Speaker A:And if Theresa's saying something to me and all I'm thinking about, well, I'm going to bring up this, I'm going to bring up that I'm encountered with that.
Speaker A:Then I'm not really listening.
Speaker A:I'm just formulating a response, just pretending.
Speaker A:And that's not humility.
Speaker A:That's really not humility.
Speaker B:No.
Speaker A:So to truly listen, you have to listen to what your spouse is saying.
Speaker A:Because if I'm planning my response, well, this is how I feel about that.
Speaker A:This is where you got this wrong.
Speaker A:Then I'm listening with filter, like you said, with filters on.
Speaker A:So I'm not really listening.
Speaker A:I need to listen to what her heart is.
Speaker A:And the great technique when you have a discussion is after they, after they say what they say, respond with, this is what I heard you say.
Speaker A:And if you can and just try to take the emotion out of it and don't, don't take offense.
Speaker B:That's good.
Speaker A:Women have the reputation of Being emotional.
Speaker A:But men get emotional too.
Speaker A:And we'll not be able to express it as well as most women can, but we do, we are emotional and we do have, and we do can take offense and be hurt and, but take that, take that out of it.
Speaker A:Don't receive offense.
Speaker A:And just together you're coming up with a solution to something.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:So active listening is listening without planning a rebuttal or out without planning your response.
Speaker B:And I was thinking too, don't think about how many times you've gone over this before and how it didn't turn out, or he always does this, or I don't think he means what he's talking about.
Speaker B:You know, you've got, you've got to lay that all down.
Speaker B:Don't, don't let that stuff be going on in your thinking and in your heart and try to figure out how this is going to end up.
Speaker B:You know, just listen.
Speaker B:You really, you know, humility is really just putting yourself low, but not in a groveling sort of way.
Speaker B:But just saying what I'm thinking about right now is not as important as compared to listening.
Speaker B:Like you said, hearing what's on their heart and really receiving it as heartfelt and sincere, that's, that's so much more important.
Speaker B:And they can communicate that better.
Speaker B:If you're being humble instead of just, you know, well, yeah, don't, don't get.
Speaker A:Out, don't get all defensive.
Speaker B:Don't get all that.
Speaker A:Put up the wall.
Speaker A:And once it then that's right, the discussion's over.
Speaker A:Discussion's over once the wall goes up.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:A third example of humility in action is putting your spouse's needs ahead of your own.
Speaker A:So you have to learn your spouse's needs, what their needs are.
Speaker A:And a husband's needs don't align with a wife's needs or the wife's need doesn't align with her husband needs.
Speaker B:That's right.
Speaker A:They're different.
Speaker A:A husband needs respect.
Speaker A:A wife needs security.
Speaker A:A husband needs physical affection.
Speaker A:A wife needs open and honest communication.
Speaker A:Husband needs companionship.
Speaker A:A wife needs soft, non sexual affection.
Speaker A:A husband needs domestic support.
Speaker A:A wife needs spiritual leadership.
Speaker A:So as we walk in our marriage, we learn those needs and how to apply those needs.
Speaker A:And a lot of times you're going to have to put your wife, your wife's needs above your own.
Speaker A:Guys.
Speaker A:Ladies, you're going to put your husband needs above your own.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:You know, we see this in marriage and we see this after there's a baby you're both lying in bed, you're both dog tired.
Speaker A:And in our household, I work outside the home and Teresa stayed home and she took care of the kids and she homeschooled the kids, but she had the babies, she had two older ones.
Speaker A:And I got to get up early and sometimes I would say, tonight's your night to have a good night's sleep.
Speaker A:And I would get up and take care of the baby.
Speaker A:And sometimes she would say, no, tonight's your night to have a good night's sleep.
Speaker A:I'll take care of the baby.
Speaker A:So, so we just a Putting the other one above other person's needs, above your own, right?
Speaker A:And that's really walking in humility.
Speaker B:So, yeah, this, this is really where you have to come into agreement together and have a.
Speaker B:It's great to have a plan, especially with a newborn baby.
Speaker B:Oh, my goodness, that is so trying for husband and wife, father, father and mother.
Speaker B:First time that you need to come together and agree and think about each other's needs.
Speaker B:When you agree, how are we going to take care of this baby daytime and nighttime, who's going to do what?
Speaker B:And like you said, that's, that's just so, so wonderful for a wife to hear from her husband.
Speaker B:Tonight's your night to get uninterrupted sleep.
Speaker B:That, that's golden.
Speaker B:Oh, my goodness.
Speaker B:Because usually for months and months, the wife's sleep is interrupted, you know, with a little baby to take care of.
Speaker B:But yeah, that is so good.
Speaker B:If you think about each other's needs when you make decisions about these things or anything else concerning your household or your children, and consider your spouse's needs above your own right.
Speaker B:And each of you doing that, it's going to be so beautiful.
Speaker B:Your needs will be met.
Speaker B:You're not going to go without your needs being met by thinking of your spouse first.
Speaker B:They're thinking of you first.
Speaker B:If this is being done right, you know, with God's example, his model for marriage, you're both going to have your needs met.
Speaker B:Probably even better than you would have expected or been able to receive by trying to grasp it, you know, trying to get that from your spouse.
Speaker A:Right?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:That's so, so good.
Speaker B:Humility just works wonders your relationship.
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Speaker A:This week.
Speaker A:Developing intimacy Friendship builder.
Speaker A:We want to challenge all couples to try one small act of humility, like actively listening or admitting when you're wrong.
Speaker A:So this week, as you're going forth through your week with your spouse, always practice active listening and always admit when you're wrong.
Speaker A:So that's your challenge this week, to actively listen to your spouse and also admit when you're wrong.
Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker B:A lot of humility, Humility challenge has been issued and sometimes you'll feel resistance to that.
Speaker B:And that's understandable because if we haven't been used to walking in this kind of humility, you're going to feel like, I don't want to do that, I don't want to act that way.
Speaker B:I don't want to listen.
Speaker B:You know, that's, that's the tendency we all have.
Speaker B:But we're going to learn to override that with that agape love and with the humility that comes from walking with the Lord.
Speaker B:And that's right.
Speaker B:Jesus is our example, Absolutely our example.
Speaker B:So of course he didn't have to admit he was wrong about anything.
Speaker B:So, you know, that he didn't have to do.
Speaker B:But so humble, so, so ready to do exactly what the Father wanted him to do.
Speaker B:And this is what the Father is always telling us to do.
Speaker B:You know, treat your spouse with so much respect that you don't want to override their will.
Speaker B:You don't want to work against what, what they're doing and what they're talking about.
Speaker B:You know, we want to work together.
Speaker A:Yes, that's right.
Speaker B:Takes both people being humble to work together as a team, to work together in marriage and let God work in your midst.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker B:He can't work with pride.
Speaker B:He's, he's like, I'm done.
Speaker B:I can't get in the midst of that.
Speaker B:But humility, he's going to come in there, do beautiful things in the midst of humility, operating in your relationship.
Speaker A:Amen.
Speaker A:So we challenge you.
Speaker A:Actively listen to your spouse and admit what you're wrong.
Speaker A:Admit what you're wrong.
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Speaker A:Humility is not just about avoiding conflict.
Speaker A:It's about creating a space where love can thrive even in the face of life's inevitable challenges.
Speaker B:By leaning into humility, you're not just making your marriage stronger, you're modeling for others what a deeply fulfilling partnership can look like.
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